Contact does equal pain

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#1 Jan 28 - 10AM
evonjohn
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Contact does equal pain

Over the weekend, I was sad. Sad and crying over my failed relationship. Not missing him, but who he was and my family.
So over the weekend, the ex got an overdue invoice. I sent him a text and said that he has a bill that is overdue, a bill for the company we dissolved. Then his brother came upstairs that morning, and I mentioned to him that my ex has an overdue invoice.
So the shit storm started again this morning. He called and left a voicemail. I text him back about the bill again. Then he left another voicemail calling me a liar and I exagerate everything and I am mental.
So then (don't kill me) I called him to explain the bill that came in and gave him instructions on how to handle it. Well he did not like what I had to say and started yelling at me and calling me names again. This is exactly why I hate talking to him on the phone and in person. I told him this, and then he went on and on about how I kicked him out, and they he would have stayed if i didn't. What the hell? I said I gave you 7 years, and thats enough. I didn't realize I had the power over you to chose your path in life with getting married and having a baby.

I don't know why I let him contact me and I engaged. I hate myself right now, and I am disappointed in myself. In a few texts he said to go find another man to treat like shit and try to control. Control what exactly?

Seems to me that he can't stop blaming me for everything, again 5 months later, nothing but blame and name calling.

I am so mad at myself.

Jan 28 - 3PM
hope29
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Hope you are ok EJ, just

Jan 28 - 12PM
Journey
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He is a big f'kn baby.

Journey on...

Jan 28 - 12PM (Reply to #30)
Journey
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Also, I hope this helps you

Journey on...

Jan 28 - 12PM
Deidre99
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and just to entertain for a

Jan 28 - 12PM (Reply to #27)
evonjohn
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Deidre - this is what he

Jan 28 - 12PM (Reply to #28)
Deidre99
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and he will say them for

Jan 28 - 11AM
evonjohn
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Yes, you are all right. I am

Jan 28 - 1PM (Reply to #21)
lessonlearned
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i can understand

Jan 28 - 2PM (Reply to #22)
evonjohn
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Actually, when I contacted

Jan 28 - 2PM (Reply to #23)
IncognitoBurrito
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Right

Jan 28 - 3PM (Reply to #24)
evonjohn
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I will never get vaidation

Jan 28 - 3PM (Reply to #25)
IncognitoBurrito
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That's right

Jan 28 - 11AM (Reply to #20)
talktothehand
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EJ

Jan 28 - 11AM (Reply to #6)
Deidre99
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You go back, because you

Jan 28 - 12PM (Reply to #7)
evonjohn
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My father was a narc. Cheated

Jan 28 - 3PM (Reply to #15)
IncognitoBurrito
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Don't ever

Jan 28 - 3PM (Reply to #16)
evonjohn
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Isn't that crazy? I have

Jan 28 - 4PM (Reply to #17)
IncognitoBurrito
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You're getting it

Jan 28 - 4PM (Reply to #19)
terri
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Burrito - This is one of the

Believe in yourself!
Terri

Jan 28 - 4PM (Reply to #18)
evonjohn
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LOL, please talk my ear off.

Jan 28 - 12PM (Reply to #8)
Deidre99
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You can't cut the narc out,

Jan 28 - 2PM (Reply to #10)
terri
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I had the same issues with my

Believe in yourself!
Terri

Jan 28 - 3PM (Reply to #14)
Garden
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I can relate to what terri

Jan 28 - 2PM (Reply to #13)
Janie53
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Terri

Jan 28 - 2PM (Reply to #11)
evonjohn
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Terri - you are right, only I

Jan 28 - 2PM (Reply to #12)
terri
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I don't like to think that

Believe in yourself!
Terri

Jan 28 - 12PM (Reply to #9)
talktothehand
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Ding ding

Jan 28 - 11AM
Deidre99
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:( I'm sorry you keep going

Jan 28 - 11AM (Reply to #4)
Deidre99
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And I just reread his retorts

Jan 28 - 11AM
IncognitoBurrito
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Why