Needing Advice!

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#1 Oct 18 - 5AM
mountainpeace
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Needing Advice!

so I called the N on sunday and the second time he answered, which is an improvement from how he used to just pick up the phone and then hang up on me and then call me a week later to apologize and ask to hook up... back in those days I didn't realize he was a N so I would think (being naive) that if I hooked up with him we could get back together again and be girlfriend and boyfriend again... anyways...
I asked him on Sunday if we could ever do other stuff besides hookup like go to a restaurant or to a movie and he said "mmm I got to go because of my minutes I will call you when I get more minutes on my phone"... then two hours later he texted "did you wanna f...k?" I didn't respond to that text then on tuesday he texted "text me back if you still wanna f...k".... I didn't check my phone until hours after he send it and I replied with three texts... basically asking him are we ever gonna go to a restaurant or see a movie....
I'm wondering from all of your experience here what will be the most likely thing he will do? Will he text me back that we can see a movie or go to a restaurant?
I know this is a confusing post because it sounds like I still want to be with him and honestly right now in my life I am not getting any attention or affection, most people just take out their frustrations out on me (why even on this board members here called me names and called me a fake and other hurtful things just because I am still attached to the N mentally and emotionally and ponder things and have questions... we all heal differently... anyways there are members here who have just been kind and patient with me and offered their best advice, and I thank you for this, your advice was very helpful as I am trying to heal my whole life and get more self esteem.... but for now it's hard for me to break mentally and emotionally from this N so if any of you would please just tell me the most likely things he will do... like will I ever hear from him again? Will he comply with a movie or going to a restaurant? I mean this is so bizarre because in the beginning when we were girlfriend and boyfriend he used to be so loving and do all these things with me, cuddle, watch movies, go to restaurants... and I told him this in the texts I sent yesterday of how he used to cuddle with me and go to restaurants ,etc...
I mean I just am reaching out here for support and advice not to be yelled at or called names or that my posts are "trigger" because to me that's awful to say when I am in AA and people talk about alcohol and no one screams at the person "Trigger stop talking about alcohol" I mean I need some love and support and advice as I have no one to talk to about these thoughts these questions... and at least I am here on this board... isn't that a first step to trying to break my N addiction?
Thanks again to those of you who have been nice to me here....Peace

Oct 19 - 8AM
lettinggoNP44
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Wow...

Oct 19 - 11AM (Reply to #80)
mountainpeace
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congrats on 150 days NC!

Oct 19 - 5AM
IncognitoBurrito
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I think

Oct 19 - 11AM (Reply to #78)
mountainpeace
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thanks for the empowering

Oct 19 - 6AM (Reply to #55)
Sickofhim
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IB

Oct 19 - 11AM (Reply to #67)
mountainpeace
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thanks for your great advice!

Oct 19 - 12PM (Reply to #68)
Sickofhim
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"only if you don't wear

Oct 19 - 12PM (Reply to #69)
mountainpeace
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yes hun I am ready to join

Oct 19 - 11PM (Reply to #77)
Snowflake
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Thank fuck for that!

Oct 19 - 12PM (Reply to #74)
tryingtorecover
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being nuts...lol

Oct 19 - 3PM (Reply to #75)
mountainpeace
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ttr, wow you aren't kidding

Oct 19 - 6PM (Reply to #76)
tryingtorecover
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Mountain...

Oct 19 - 12PM (Reply to #70)
Sickofhim
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My mouth is on the floor!!!

Oct 19 - 12PM (Reply to #71)
mountainpeace
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ok yes I will get tested you

Oct 19 - 1PM (Reply to #72)
Sickofhim
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U should thank Gd every day

Oct 19 - 1PM (Reply to #73)
mountainpeace
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thanks for the empowering

Oct 19 - 6AM (Reply to #65)
IncognitoBurrito
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I mean

Oct 19 - 11AM (Reply to #66)
mountainpeace
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lol oh no hi hello how are

Oct 19 - 6AM (Reply to #56)
IncognitoBurrito
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Sickofhim

Oct 19 - 11AM (Reply to #64)
mountainpeace
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"just a motel room rented by

Oct 19 - 7AM (Reply to #57)
Sickofhim
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Two things come to mind: 1.

Oct 19 - 11AM (Reply to #58)
mountainpeace
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awww that's what brought me

Oct 19 - 12PM (Reply to #59)
Sickofhim
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That's a narc---wanting more

Oct 19 - 12PM (Reply to #60)
mountainpeace
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"wanting more but giving

Oct 19 - 1PM (Reply to #61)
Sickofhim
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Now just stay awake! No more

Oct 19 - 3PM (Reply to #62)
mountainpeace
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Thanks Sickofhim for all of

Oct 19 - 3PM (Reply to #63)
Sickofhim
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My pleasure....I believe in

Oct 19 - 5AM
Deidre99
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Hi mountainpeace! Just

Oct 19 - 10AM (Reply to #53)
mountainpeace
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Thanks Deidre for checking in

Oct 19 - 5AM (Reply to #48)
IncognitoBurrito
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Where else