Is he really a narcissist? I'm so confused on what's going on!? Help!

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#1 Sep 30 - 11PM
mountainpeace
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Is he really a narcissist? I'm so confused on what's going on!? Help!

I am trying to figure out if I am in fact dealing with a narcissist... I am that confused... I wrote a post a few days ago about how this guy has been in and out of my life for 2 and a half years...

well yesterday he called to "hook up"... when I asked him on the phone if he wanted to be with me or if this is just a hookup he said that he thinks he wants to be with me... that I make him happy ....
further in the conversation on the phone he said he can have any girl he wants "just look at him" but that he chooses me because he loves me... bu that the only way we can officially be together is if we save up money to get out of this area because he said his family really wants him to be with a tall blonde girl (family expectations of who to breed with) and I am short with brown hair... but that if he can get at least 150 miles away from them then he can officially be with me....

well I saw him that night after the phone call.... I gave him the sex he wanted... after the sex I asked him if he could give me some neck kisses.... he only gave a few complaining about this and that and that that was enough neck kisses and he needed to leave my house and go home he was tired and wanted to sleep in his own bed (by the way when I picked him up and was initially driving to my house he said that he would stay for hours and we could hang out) but as soon as I gave him sex he said he had to leave :( he said that all men are like this and he is working on being nicer after sex....

when I was asking him more details on what life will be like when we are officially together he said well if there is a major disaster he can't be with me and he must just protect his family (blood comes first), then he said that I just have to learn to deal with his paranoid scizophrenia... as he said that he can rationally see his fears of the world coming to an end are irrational but in any case if the world does come to an end then he cannot be with me and his first concern will be his family's saftey.... but I asked what if we are together when say the world is coming to an end then he said "maybe I'd protect you" and when I asked.. what do you mean by maybe he said "well if you are at work and I am hanging out with my brothers then I can't protect you as we are not together".... I notice how he was implying I would be the one working while he just hung out?

there is so much more to write... I am so confused... does he sound like a narcissist... can you tell me how this is going to play out in real life for me if I continue to answer his calls and see him ? is he a narcissist?

Oct 3 - 12AM
neverlookback
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Well

Oct 2 - 8PM
NessaUPW
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N confirmation or not not being respectful

Oct 2 - 7PM
mountainpeace
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THANKS to all of you for all of your comments and advice

Oct 3 - 5AM (Reply to #29)
Goldie
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What is the DEEP DOWN INSIDE nonsense?

Oct 3 - 4AM (Reply to #28)
spinning
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MP, this breaks my heart...

spinning

Oct 3 - 2AM (Reply to #27)
Sickofhim
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Why would he leave the

Oct 2 - 11PM (Reply to #26)
Lovely1
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Oh mountain peace

Oct 2 - 9AM
Fresca67
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Mountainpeace

Oct 1 - 2PM
HelpMeHeal
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You had to pick him up????

Oct 1 - 1PM
moving_on
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I'm sorry, Mountainpeace, but

Oct 1 - 11AM
TruthbeginsToday
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I am No Professional

Oct 1 - 11AM (Reply to #21)
Sickofhim
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Right on, Truth....

Oct 1 - 11AM
brinamarie
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Sounds textbook to me.

Oct 1 - 5AM
Kitty02 (not verified)
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He sounds like he is full of

Oct 1 - 4AM
Goldie
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Sounds like YOU are giving away all of your Power to this man

Oct 1 - 4AM
neverlookback
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he stated

Oct 1 - 4AM
no more an echo
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So, why are you preoccupied with his diagnosis?

Oct 1 - 4AM
Sickofhim
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Btw....

Oct 1 - 4AM
onwithmylife
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mountainpeace

Oct 1 - 3AM
Janie53
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Mountainpeace

Oct 1 - 2AM
Sickofhim
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RUN, don't walk...seriously.

Oct 1 - 12AM
Journey
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There are so many red flags

Journey on...

Oct 1 - 12AM (Reply to #9)
mountainpeace
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thanks for your reply!

Oct 1 - 2AM (Reply to #10)
Pearl430
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emotionaly abusive

Sep 30 - 11PM
Walkingonsunshine
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why are you looking for an

Oct 1 - 1AM (Reply to #3)
mountainpeace
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thanks for your reply

Oct 1 - 1AM (Reply to #4)
Walkingonsunshine
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"There's a famous saying on

Oct 1 - 1AM (Reply to #5)
mountainpeace
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thanks for your reply

Oct 1 - 3PM (Reply to #7)
shock and awe.some
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Hey Mountain

Oct 1 - 2AM (Reply to #6)
Walkingonsunshine
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If he is schizophrenic the