It is nearly a year since he left for OW. I finally initiated divorce proceedings last month. Have been warned that this will be difficult and this is so, so true. Yes I have been the poor victim hoping my husband of 18 years and 3 children would realise his mistakes and coming begging back to be with us as a family once again. And months ago I probably would have welcomed him back. After reading lots and gaining some self respect back this is the last thing I want and I actually don't quite mind he has OW now. I just want him out of my life once and for all.
I have been assertive and strong with wanting to finalise the marriage through proper legal channels but he is not meeting me half way. I know they don't want to be held accountable or take responsiblity or want to spend money on lawyers but what does one do when they continuously try to bide more time in taking this final step. I know it is mainly financial reasons he is not going any further but still says he can't handle the finality of it all.
He is having a break with ow while he sorts himself out whilst still telling her that it will all be ok soon but then doing nothing to finalise our marriage.
I am doing my part in finalising everything and he sits back. We will go bankrupt if he sits on his hands much longer while at the moment there is a slight chance of coming out with a tiny amount. I really don't mind either way I just want to start my life without him in it. I am in limbo at the moment.
Please help me in working out what my next step should be. I want him far far away from me. Funny when I get strong....he doesn't like it at all.
Thank you all. xx