Has anyone had to deal with the N almost forgetting that he has children and grandchildren? When we were together he saw them several times a week. He left almost 3 yrs ago. In the beginning he was dropping in on them a few times a week for a quick 20 minute or so visit. He would mostly just speak "I and me" the entire time he was there. The children are not acceptive of his new life and often speak their feelings to him. He is with "the love of his life" (#4 since he left) who has children younger than his grandchildren. They voiced their embarassment and disgust to him. He has stopped contacting them and has not seen the grandchildren for 3 months. They say they are glad because he is so selfish and immoral but they are also so very sad that he has just thrown them away. I am mad and sad about it all. Has anyone else had to deal with this and how do you get through it? He is cosidered an upstanding man in the community. That too is hard for the family to accept. Do they even see how he has thrown his family away? They accept that? We don't get it.