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Was your exN's conversations boring?
maui3375
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Was your exN's conversations boring?
Posted August 15, 2012 - 4:46pm
I was just thinking last night about how the exN had no real communication skills while talking. He was boring to say the least. When he talked (rarely) it was mostly about him or the weather. It's like their brains can't function long enough to carry on a good conversation for to long. Max time for the exN was about 15 mins then an awkward silence where I would have to pull something out of my hat to talk about. I think that's why he liked to text rather than talk, he didn't have to think much. Boring assholes..
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Your jokes dont work anymore.!
August 16, 2012 - 3:31am — evergreenhttp://youtu.be/d6A3XlCWicw
This song reminds me of how his jokes didn't work anymore. His stories about his life ,his college days, how he was the best highest paid political researcher,how he could've been a pro footballer (soccer player),how he played tennis for county,how his friend an ex S.A.S said he could've been in the S.A.S, blah blah blah blah !!!
Me Me Me Me........his favorite subject.
Interesting the first time you hear them ...totally mind numbing the hundredth time!
BOOOORRRRIIINNNNGGGG!!!!..................
He was zombie-like, most of
August 16, 2012 - 3:29am — WarriorHe was zombie-like, most of the time, but when conversation went to himself, horses (he is a breeder) or sex, this man came to life : )
He always talked about riding
August 15, 2012 - 7:46pm — pathtopeaceHe always talked about riding bikes as a kid. Mostly about when he was a kid. Or how great he was at past jobs. He definately couldn't hold depth. Most conversations were one sided...he harps now how ow and him can talk for hours. Yawn. Probably talking hours about himself.
Mine too!
August 18, 2012 - 5:54am — ScarlettFunny that. I found with mine we often ended up talking about childhood TV, games etc. And he is really close to his nephews (I suppose as they look up to him and offer him admiration).
Mine would either do all the talking. Or if chatting online when he was at work, would just ask me a question, let me witter on and then say very little in response (now I think about it).
It left me feeling like I was boring, but actually it was weird. Like we'd talk about something - the Jubilee Weekend here in England - and he'd be like "What's the Jubilee?" What's bunting" - always random questions like he was an alien. It wasn't just UK/USA differences - I have lots of friends in America who have no problem knowing what I'm talking about. He never really went into a subject or gave any useful advice, support or opinions. It was only once I'd started to see him in his true colours that i realised this. Something just wasn't right, even when he wasn't being difficult.
Snoozefest
August 16, 2012 - 12:15am — yokidokiMy ex barely talked and even if he did it was random things about weather or what television show he watched last night or what sporting event he watched last night. He never had intelligent conversations !
LOL! Oh my gosh!!!!!!
August 15, 2012 - 7:41pm — Brooke1Okay,well let me just say that couldn't have paid attn to it all even if I was being paid to.
He talked about himself ALL THE TIME, and his narrow, boring little life,and that is how we spent almost all our time together! I couldn't get him to do anything interesting with me.Nope. He just wanted to go for walks and nothing else. This way he could talk about himself intensly the whole time.
Negative,boring, selfish verbal vomit. But could he listen to me for one minute? nope. Had to mock me or pretend to be interested suddenly in his surroundings, or whistle for a dog, say hi to a stranger who's not even looking at him---just to shut me up right away. Whoever he is with, or where ever he is, I guarantee he is still talking! Yikes!
Same here
August 19, 2012 - 7:27pm — rosedewittbukaterIncessant talking and complaining about her job, her friends, her family and everything else under the sun. How everyone had done her wrong. Towards the end when the mask was fully off she didn't even feign interest in me or my life whatsoever!
If I started talking she would practically walk across the room to talk to a complete stranger or be otherwise distracted by her phone, a dog or some other such nonsense.
On interrupting
August 15, 2012 - 9:46pm — tracydoe78Mine would always interupt me too. Anything else could distract him if I wanted to talk.Such petty shit would be more important to him. Why do they do this? Sometimes I think he did it to avoid uncomfortable topics(the stste of our relationship). Sometimes I thouight it an intentional means of offending me.Or are they just that clueless and self-absorbed and don't see us as people with feelings and needs? Only once in a great while would he try to modify this behavior. for example if he knew I was fed up and he felt it in his best interest at the time to not piss me off.If somehow he stood to benefit from it.
Brooke1
August 15, 2012 - 8:02pm — maui3375Haha so true they are so one sided. I think that's why they have so many OW's because they get a thrill talking to new people and want to get their egos fed by new supply. They think everyone deserves to know how great they are. (Yuck) After awhile he would just repeat the same thing to me and I would respond without trying to seem bored. I mean how many years can you tell the same damn stories. UGH I think they pick up on this and want someone elses view and praise.. It's all too much!! lol
LOL
August 15, 2012 - 7:01pm — Reason2Believethis made me remember the night Wanna B called me as he was leaving the grocery store. It was after 9 at night, and I was tired. He went on and on and on about how mad he was that the coupons for Kleenex and peanut butter had expired...ONLY by one day, and the store would not honor them. It was endles....I even started to doze as he recounted the entire shopping expedition.
I must have been too silent, because he suddenly stopped and said "are you still there????" to which I replied "no, I hung myself 15 minutes ago"...he did not think it was funny, but then again, he never really thought anything was really funny. BORING!
Oh that is too funny
August 19, 2012 - 11:00pm — shock and awe.someHung myself 15 minutes ago. You got me laughing
LOL!
August 15, 2012 - 7:51pm — Brooke1"hung myself" I wish I wouldve thought to say this to my ex. LOL! I can just picture the exact sour look on my N's face if I did. He kind of reminded me of kermit the frog how he'd twist his mouth and say "hmmmmmm" if he thought he was being laughed at. hahha
So hiliarious..
August 15, 2012 - 7:24pm — maui3375no, I hung myself 15 minutes ago"... OMG that made my night Thanks.. I'm still lAUGHING :)
Same thing here; we could
August 15, 2012 - 7:42pm — nolongerboundSame thing here; we could "talk" for only a little while, usually it was about him. For the most part, I felt like I was the boring one. He didn't take much interest in my life at all. It seemed like his eyes would glaze over whenever I mentioned anything about myself or what was going on in my life.
He would also randomly blurt out pieces of information about himself (sometimes interrupting me in the process) which, of course, made him out to be the greatest guy on earth. I couldn't even consider them conversation starters. It really was just him having to remind me about how wonderful he was.
Ughhh a huge bore!
August 15, 2012 - 5:40pm — BethanyKWe went on a trip to an amazing resort. I was so excited to go bc it was secluded and every guest had their own mini cottage.
I was painfully bored! On day two I was online looking for off grounds gyms to go to just to get some mental stimulation from the locals. His focus was on impressing the staff with his expensive purchase, "Hey babe - did you see the look on his face when I ordered that bottle of wine?!" --- Oh yeah NARC everyone is sooo impressed that you can afford that. Ugh
So I know what you mean. BORING!
-Bethany
Oh my...
August 15, 2012 - 6:13pm — DarleneSounds like my last trip with xn...big tourist place...goofy shows....we had a hotel room for 3 nights at the 4th of July!!! Yeah....big woopeeeeeeee....he laid in bed for 2 days watching tv....little conversation...fucking hypochondriac whined for 2 DAYS about how bad his back hurt...Got mad at me when at the end of the 2nd day I let him have it....told him we could have stayed home and did this!!!He started mocking what I was saying just like a little kid would do....I sorta lost my cool and slapped his arm....hard....I felt like a shiitheel...I'm not violent....guess he did bring out the crazy in me...
So boring
August 15, 2012 - 5:18pm — Drew72I had to listen to mine drone on and on about his career and how he would be making millions from the various businesses he had/was putting together, and how it was so difficult for him because it just didn't seem to be paying off after years of him trying to make it happen.
I would reply making all the right noises and providing with reassurances about how fantastic he was and of course he was going to make it with his talents.
Aside from that most of our conversations were about our relationship problems and arguments, mainly due to things I had done/said and how we were to move forward from that to a better relationship. Of course it was all about me changing to become a better girlfriend for him.
After about a month of this it was soo boring we had no decent conversation about hardly anything else. There was no substance in the rship. I was aware of that at the time but chose to ignore it as I was so smitten by him.
yes
August 15, 2012 - 5:07pm — kollontai77the N I knew droned on in a monotone about all kinds of things, mostly related to himself and his disappointments. He never asked how I was, or took an interest in anything I was doing much.... unless he was after something, then he ramped up the special attention. I think I just miss the highs of being paid attention to. Mostly the hollow empty feelings were there, no connection, sad.
I know that feeling well!!!
August 15, 2012 - 6:31pm — tracydoe78Hollow and empty. After 13 years of being recycled by this man there was still no real emotional connection. He's never really asked me a question specifically about me or how I felt about something. He's boring as hell...takes him a half hour to tell a five minute story. When we were trying to live married life and we went somewhere I would invite my cousin along just to have adult company and someone to talk to. I mostly felt alone yet still weighed down with him....
tracydoe78
August 15, 2012 - 6:39pm — maui3375Oh this was a major trigger about feeling alone. I even told him one time. "You left me a long time ago" and I meant by no feelings coming from him, yet I stayed with him but felt no emotional connection at all after the honeymoon period..That should have been a big red flag right there. But like everything else I chose to ignore my gut feeling. If we feel lonely yet are not alone that is just not right!! Freaking Jerks.