If you need to get upset with me for what I am about to say I understand. It will probably be like a foreign language, seeing as how you are here on site for a short time.

You responded to his text. That was contact. Don't do that again. Change your number. He will keep reeling, and then to change it up then will ignore you when you make the first contact, and it will piss you off. When we are new we usually moan when they make contact and moan when they dont...it is our addiction to the drama...most of us come here with it.

I will tell you his antics were predictable and boring. He is a one trick pony with a very limited imagination. Only a Narc would text after a suicide attempt. Lol. They get cancer, toxic poisoning, their friends and relatives die, get diseases...they will even lie about sick pets. Boring. Boring. Boring.

You need to get to the place where you see that what happened was that you made contact. Period. Going cold turkey is the best way. Block his ass. When you went out to the car you were hoping he had called or texted, I know because I have been there.

Forgive yourself, and then go no contact, no responding, no peeking, no asking. That is THE answer.

God Bless,

ds

because this is my one year out last post I am working on - yes they ARE insane - they would not title books "The mask of Sanity if they werent!!!!! When we tap into their INSANE world just to peek, or see what they are doing we get a taste of their insanity thrown back into our faces - it may take a day, a week or month but eventually their INSANITY will resurface once again - shut the door to this INSANE person any way you can

Was trying to break up with him and he kept threatening suicide. I believed it so I stayed with him.

It's pure manipulation. He says shit like this to keep you where you are. Control you.

He even got his friend to call me and say that he'd gotten in a wreck and was in the hospital. Just to hear my reaction.

Then when I finally broke up with him and ignored all the ensuing suicide threats, he RAGED
at me that I didn't even care he said he was going to kill himself. I told him I knew he was bluffing which caused more rage.

It was nasty but know that he's unlikely to hurt himself. They like themselves too much!!!

If you had blocked his texts, this would never have happened in the first place. Just sayin'.

NO ONE at the police station will put their JOBS on the line for your piece of crap N. NO ONE is going to ignore a request for a restraining order if it is warranted. NO ONE cares who the N and his father are when you have valid reasons to be protected from him. I successfully obtained a R/O against my husband who was then the president of the board of education.

If you think otherwise, get a close friend or family member to accompany you to the police station and DOCUMENT every person you speak to. Domestic violence is not longer taken lightly and R/O's have been been placed upon many "connected" people. NO ONE will bury this or increase the danger you are in because their positions and livelihoods depend on it.

Listen to what is being said in all of these comments. If you choose NOT to go N/C, you will be putting yourself and your children in further danger. The choice is in YOUR hands now.

This is sick. You've GOT to untangle yourself AT ONCE from this and from this man. Do not stop. Do not pass go, do not collect $200.

Mine would casually mention suicide every now and then. Those that are truly NPD do not act on this, it is extremely rare. Yet they will throw it around once in a while as part of their sick games.
Please stay away from this man and do not look back.

As for the Mods, they are trying to help you. It's called tough love honey. One day you may thank them for it. hugs, Rose

You can lead a horse to water, but you cannot make them drink... old addage.....

You are not ready to face reality. This is my opinion based on my experience. I was in the spot you are in, numerous times. And I'm very blessed that I did not take all the actions I was convinced by the N I should be taking, and that something much larger than me kept me from reacting to all those BS phone calls and texts. I believe Goldie is right. You LIKE drama. You like the negative attention that piece of shit gives you.

You have you and your kids and your family in the middle of a circle of hell, and frankly you have no right to put ANYONE there but yourself. If that's where you want to stay, then stay there, but do your kids and your family a favor and stop dragging others down with you.

You were given, numerous times, many suggestions to do things to help yourself out and you make conscious decisions to continually buy in to the sick that fucker puts out, that makes you an accomplice at this point. Not an empath...

THEY LIE
THEY DO NOT KNOW TRUTH. THEY WOULDN'T IF IT SMACKED THEM IN THE FACE
THEY THRIVE AND GROW MORE POWERFUL ON THIS SHIT

What do you think your kids thought while you were doing all that falling down and wailing in the street shit? Children are resilient, but I will tell you, they also are like sponges and they retain what they've seen for LONG LONG times. This is the example you are giving them!

A. it's acceptable to act out unsupportive negative emotions
B. it's acceptable to allow people to treat you with unacceptable behavior.

I'm very new and I really don't want to come off as a rag, but this bothers me much because of the fact that you have kids in this mess. Please, for their sake, go NC, go get help, read the posts and rid yourself and your children and your family of that sick fucker.

Who gives a shit how "important" his family is. Since when does what other people think define who you are or what you do? Fuck them too!

You're going to end up dead or beaten badly or lose your kids or something horrendeous if you don't pay heed to Goldie's words and do something to save yourself...

There comes a point where we have to stop blaming others, blaming the N, blaming the OW, and acknowledge the fucking illness and become willing to not stay in the sick...

make your choice.. drop the drama.. and start getting well.

THE ONLY TEXT BACK THAT PIECE OF SHIT N/P DESERVED SHOULD HAVE SAID "AWESOME, LET ME COME LOAD THE FUCKIN' GUN FOR YOU!"

round3

that you're not seeing that you are causing your own suffering at this point. Why do you care even if he did shoot himself. He wouldn't if you did.

It was you that caused your father pain. Who do you care about yourself and your father. or an abusive, manipulating POS?

How could you believe this crap?....When you answered his text you knew there would be a comeback.......
Its your poor dad I feel sorry for.....your hysterics must have frightened the life out of your dad......
Goldie's post says it all IN SPADES....

Horrible. But, not entirely surprising...they stoop to all kinds of low levels, when not getting what they want. MOST narcs don't commit suicide. It's just not something someone with NPD does, statistically speaking. There's exceptions, but MOST narcs don't take their own lives.

But, that said, I think that when we receive such news, it's natural to take it seriously.

You need to change your phone number, it's the only way you will move on, and heal from this sick and toxic situation.

Sorry you were put through that. :(