Assuming I am drawn to emotionally unavailable men and acknolegeing that my father was/is emotionally unavailable. I have noticed that as soon as I begin to realize the extent of the emotional unavailability I get a strung out feeling. It's a mixture of sadness and heightened sexual attraction. I can understand the sadness part cause I can relate it to the comfort zone of longing for the affection of a father. However, I don't get the increased sexual attraction part. Its not like i had any sexual thoughts of my father as Freud would probably propose. it's like the feeling of " longing/ wanting/ wishing is crack mixed with extacy. That's pretty screwed up. I don't believe I was ever molested by my father, he's just a demented man who doesn't care about anything. I need to understand the basis of how this longing for love from emotionally unavailable men results in crack like lusty feelings. And for the record.. im not engaging in this shit anymore id just like to understand how a becomes b. Thanks in advance for opinions.