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idealization devalue discard!
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idealization devalue discard!
Posted August 9, 2012 - 2:48am
"You are one of the most intelligent people I have ever met!"
"You are such a strong kind and loving person"
"You have really got under my skin like no other woman ever has before"
"I find it hard to let go but with you I know I have"
"We share all the same values I'm so lucky to have found you"
"Why are you always at your dramatic sisters beck and call do you think she would be there for you"
"Your friend is such a flirt I was on to her but I would never go there as shes just not my type"
"My friend cant understand how I have a good relationship with my ex wife he actually thinks I'll get back with her! I told him that's ridiculous"
"Soandso says he doesnt like you but I told him you are a really nice person"
"Why weren't you there for me when I needed you I would've been there for you"
"I think we are knackered as a relationship but I will always be there for you as a friend"
"Its always me making the effort to contact you ...(every other hour) why don't you make the effort?"
"Adios" ............I had loads of Adios'......That was always his final word but never was.
After securing new "supply" before discarding me.when I saw all the several messages on his phone and confronted him about them he stormed out sent txt to say
"That number was a male friend actually matters little though I'm tired of your abuse"
Back in bed with new supply weeks later.Then after that call to my house to offer his friendship!
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enigma
August 10, 2012 - 1:59am — evergreenthe night he stormed out when I found call log for OW on his mobile phone. I sent her this txt from my phone.
"(OWs Name) I cant listen to anymore of (Ns Nmae) bullshit, an enigma to you a pain in the arse to me!"
Enigma= something that is mysterious and seems impossible to understand completely! (that's Cambridge Dictionary definition!)
Thats what OW called him an "Enigma"!!
Well we all know there is nothing "mysterious" about them and as far as, "impoosible to understand completely"
Thanks to forums like this we understand that they are Narcissistic ,discorded Sociopaths/psychopaths!
Well she's got her "ENIGMA" back for now God help her!
Too funny
August 9, 2012 - 11:49pm — NoMoreFreakBoyI just got "adiosed" for the umpteenth time. I had to laugh at your comment that your narcs last word was always "adios" . They are all the same.
They really are all the
August 9, 2012 - 4:20am — MirrormeThey really are all the same!!! Wow!! Mine said the same things ... The beginning was so good... The ending so bad .. How does someone do that to someone they love? I really don't understand I'm trying.. But I dint get it..
That Is The Question
August 9, 2012 - 8:48pm — LadderToTheMoon"How does someone do that to someone they love?"
That is the question I keep asking myself. I don't think I will ever understand except to know that a sociopath would do this. No good, honest, caring, committed individual would ever do that to someone!
I could make a list of things me ex said that would look similar to yours. Plus songs he made up about me and cute nicknames. Who does that and then throws you away like you are completely worthless, and then doesn't even allow you to speak with him? Ugh!!!
Do they really love the
August 9, 2012 - 5:41am — Lovely1Do they really love the person mirrorme? Do they?
It felt like it, it looked like it but there's ajways something off.
The whole I don't like or love my ex yet I'm
Going back to her once you are gone. Is that fair? Is that love? She thinks he lives her too but is it love?! no. It's fraud.
Whoa!!
August 9, 2012 - 3:37am — Lovely1The making no effort that you speak of. Amazing! I had the same problem . True that I wasn't much of a caller and not obsessed by him do he ajways soiled about it being a one sided Rship. That only he our in .
And the justifying a male friend, please. They always end the last word with a lie. So they don't end up looking bad. We should remember them as a saint not as a liar. My last MSG for N is how he will not go back to ex.. That he is sick of defending himself . I wonder where he is now... OW.
Neediness knew no bounds
August 9, 2012 - 3:52am — evergreenYes I was "never there for him" ....despite the fact I was on call 24/7 felt like his full time carer! If I tried to leave his place he would have a million excuses and reasons why I shouldn't! He couldn't bare to be alone ..if I popped out to the shops he would be on the phone when I got back. When I got home the phone would be constantly going and constant txt.He never gave me any chance to initiate contact as he was constantly contacting me!
Initially you mistake this attention for his affection for you but when it becomes obsessive! it feels like you never have a minute for yourself.
Oh I got the ex was the worst mistake in his life "she means nothing to me" ....all the while contacting her at every opportunity.
I now know he was /is a pathological liar.I knew it when I was with him my gut told me so I ignored it for too long. Mind you he was very good with his excuses very good manipulator!
dead time
August 9, 2012 - 6:33am — AftermathThey are in need of constant ego stimulation. This jackass termed other women as SUPPORT system.
They cannot sit still and be alone. It's about positioning themselves in that roving spotlight.