Hi, I haven't been on here for a long time. I had seeked out help and found this place because of my ex.
I just met a man recently who at first seemed really great! He took me out a few times, and was so fun to talk to, and took me out for coffee and meals, talking and laughing, having a good time. The 2nd time we went out was almost magical. I felt a real connection with him and thought he was really starting to like me. I have to admit though, he kept refering to me as "friend". (the dreaded f-word).
After that 2nd night though, he came the next morning to take me out to breakfast. Something wasnt the same anymore.
When i was telling him a story about my past, he judged me and told me i brought it on myself. Okay maybe thats true but he didnt have to say it,and i could feel that he was impatient as soon as i had started talking.
After that day, i didnt bother texting him because i thought i scared him away by telling him too much. So 4 days go by and he sends me a text, "Are u out of town? Long time no talk, no text. Are you ok?" The wierd thing about him saying this is that he never called or texted me neither. lol Its like he's saying, "Why arent you running after me?"
So then we went out the day after that.Still not the same as he was that night. Infact, a little more rude. He took me to go have a coffee and is spending even more time texting ppl than the last 2 times. He asks me if i mind if his friend Carol joins us for coffee. I say no. She is gay and has a girlfriend so nothing to worry about. not like she wants him. Her and i talked alot and i really enjoyed the conversation. I think that erked him. It became obvious that he wanted to be the one talking . Oh well. The part that really stood out to me though is when i was saying something to him, and he looked right past me as if something was really interesting. I turned and saw nothing. I stopped talking and said......"anyway"......then he repeated what i said, which showed he was doing that on purpose.ok here are all the other reasons i think he might be a narc:
When he first saw me at my friend's potluck, he said the reason he came and talked to me was because it seemed i barely noticed him, and he found that unusual, compared to how other women react to him
He has a hero complex
He took me to a mall and kept me waiting for a long time outside a phone store while he enquired about something he could have done another time
asked me if i wanted him to buy me lunch after that.instead of doing it
he is on facebook bragging about all his accomplishments, some of them years ago
hasnt bothered contacting me for 10 days now, exept this morning by accident because he thought he was sending the text to his friend Carol. Before this, he was talking about us going to this place and that place together, etc.
and whats with this "friend" thing? This guy is hard to read. I dont know if he's gay, uninterested, playing mind games.....? What does everyone think? And he hasnt shown me where he lives. Then again, we'ver only been out 4 times.