Having a really bad morning-help

Having a really bad morning-help
Posted August 3, 2012 - 9:43am
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Hi everyone. I am having a bad morning. Me, my parents, and my kids are all leaving in the morning for vacation so I am getting everything ready. My husband helped me plan this and of course he was going until he told me a month ago he no longer wanted to be with me.

I am having a really hard time remembering all that he said we would do on vacation and how wonderful it was going to be. I will have fun but I miss my husband so much it is killing me. I had such a good day yesterday and now I feel I am back to square 1. I started taking antidepressants. I am just a mess.

His family is having a birthday party for our son and a couple cousins and they invited me to come but I just can't go. It is too hard. I love his family so much and they know what he is doing to me. I just can't face them and I feel horrible because his mom started crying when I talked to her earlier and told her I wasn't coming.

This is all such a mess. Please any advice on how to get through this is welcome. I miss him and this is all tearing me apart right now. He just doesn't seem to care about any of it :(

‹ Is this just me or do you / did you do this too.......? Big setback they're living together ›
shock and awe.some's picture

Dear wa

August 3, 2012 - 12:53pm — shock and awe.some

This is still so fresh for you & it will hurt for awhile. Like Lisa says "We can't avoid the pain". We need to face our emotions. Cry & cry some more. I'm so sory that he yanked you & your family like this. Unfortunately this is what they do. You had your life turned upside dow. How long were u married & how old are your kids? I know it's heart breaking. But here's the great news. If you do the work on yourself, get good counseling & take care of YOU, you WILL feel better.

Read...read...& read some more. May I suggest that you take an I pad or net book computer w/u on vacation? During your down time, you could research toxic relationships & NPD if he is an N. I think this w/b helpful. You will discover that his leaving is not of your doing. You will begin to see that he is a toxic person with mental health issues. You will be amazed at what you learn. I was married to an N for 30 years, then had 3 N r/s after that.

I am finally just now in my 50's learning why I chose these men & how not to make the same sick choices in my future. Best of luck to you honey. I didn't think I would ever smile again but I am doing well.

Warrior's picture

I know how hard it is. It is

August 3, 2012 - 11:34am — Warrior

I know how hard it is. It is almost impossible to understand that someone who was planning great vacations with you suddenly changes his mind. It is hard because it is not normal. Going from 100 to zero in weeks is crazy and happens because they are not normal. No one detaches that fast. If someone does, doubt the atachment. I think the only way to cope is think that it is for the best. Hurts but will lead to a better life.
Stay strong. A big hug.
Love,
Warrior