God will not abandon you, beautiful Goldie. He's right there with you and I'll be praying for you. So sorry to hear that you are going through such a difficult time! What's that bible verse again... "all things work together for those who love Him"? Sending you love and hugs, alissa

"good people will not be taken down no matter what."
and this is how we find the strength to get over the obstacles that are thrown in our way; God helps those who help themselves. I'm sure of it. For all of the bad he always throws us a lifeline somewhere. That is what I believe.
I hope that things improve for you soon.
hugs to you

I am so sorry you are going through so much! *big hug*
I will pray for you... I wish I could do more.

This is like the end of "It's a Wonderful Life" where everyone gets together and save George Bailey from prison!

Know I have added your trials to my "prayer basket" Goldie. While I realize that "life happens", it really sucks when it's happening to someone who truly does give to others selflessly on a daily basis. I have no understanding for why this happens. I am thinking about you....you are one of my life's "angels" that has spoke into my life in a HUGE way!

love~ Layla

My thoughts, love and prayers are with you.I pray that you continue to find the strength and will power to move forward. You have been such an inspiration to all of us here and deserve to have good things happen. Yes, shit happens, but sometimes we just want to scream ENOUGH!!!!
Miracles happen and I hope you are on the receiving end.

I, too, have always been the strong one, sacrificing (willingly) for others and now I find myself a bit squeezed. The ones I helped so much are doing well, but have little desire to help make my life any easier. The hell with them.

Have to nod my head and laugh how so many things can go wrong at once. In the past few weeks my dryer, oven and computer died...someone hit my car...and I was mowing my lawn, hit a rock and destroyed my lawnmower. Ah, life.

Goldie, PLEASE get rest, treat yourself well and do not let these stresses make you ill. There are many thinking and praying for you. You will come out on top!

Hugs,

Reason

I'm 100% sure the sun is going to shine on you and your son.

I don't believe that "Nice guys finish last."

You will conquer this just as you have the obstacles in your past.

There's no doubt that you are smart, determined, and full of love. That's a winning combination!

Stay focused,
xoxo
Ruby

I am just now reading this after being away from the forum for a few days. I just want you to know that you have been so much help to me in the past couple of weeks during group sessions and I admire your strength even more now. Why? Because I had no idea you were going through all this bc you make the group sessions about us and our struggles. Thank you for sharing this with all of us and I will pray that all good things come your way. You are an inspiration to us all and I am humbled by your humility. Thank you for everything you do each and every day to make the world a better place!

Hi Goldie, I was shocked to read your post, this is awful. No-one should lose their home, its not right! I understand the fear you must be feeling right now.

With all the trauma of getting through the D&D's of the N, I haven't prayed. But tonight I will join everyone and ask God to look after you as you've looked after so many.

Your words have got me through some very dark moments. I will be forever grateful to you and the other Mods and members for saving me.

Hi Goldie, I was shocked to read your post, this is awful. No-one should lose their home, its not right! I understand the fear you must be feeling right now.

With all the trauma of getting through the D&D's of the N, I haven't prayed. But tonight I will join everyone and ask God to look after you as you've looked after so many.

Your words have got me through some very dark moments. I will be forever grateful to you and the other Mods and members for saving me.

Dear Goldie,
I have been thinking of you since I read this yesterday, it touched my spirit. Your humility speaks volumes to me. Even thought we are not “church woman” as we were in our pass, I know that you still are a woman of faith. The scripture kept coming in my spirit “I have never seen the righteous forsaken or his seed begging for bread.” I really do believe in Karma, or that we reap what we sow. You have given so much time of yourself, your money and you r time to so many. It will come back to you, I prayed that unexpected doors open up to you to provide you with what you need, that you have unconventional wisdom to find solutions to the problems that you are facing. I pray that you feel the love that surrounds you and the people that care for you. You are empowered by the God that dwells in you with courage, strength, wisdom, knowledge, joy and laughter.
Many times when I am dealing with difficult issues, I look back in my life and see how a way out was made for me. If you look back in your life, you will see how you escaped difficult situations. That strength that carried you through will carry you through again.
I have been so blessed by your words of wisdom, my sessions with you, pointed me in the right direction. I pray for favor for you and your son in every area of your life.
I admire you and respect you as a woman. You are blessed!!! You and your son will continue to be in my prayers.

Xoxo
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Goldie,

Know that although we are far away...a prayer is already sent.

Psalms 34:18 'God is near to those who are broken at heart;And those that are crushed in spirit he saves.'

Goldie..you heard and assisted in so many crushed and broken hearts and spirits here......

....you too will be held up.

Psalms 34:19 'Many are the calamities of the righteous one, But out of them all God delivers him.'

I don't have much to give but I do have my faith, strength and words.

I am stronger because of you. You suffered and came through and then used your wisdom and experience to help us.
What I've learned...evil hates light...you are light.
God wants light to prevail....he will come to your aid in many forms.

I'm so glad you reached out...you should never go it alone.

Thank you for all of your kindness. YOU are loved. Ihope you can feel it.
Truth

My thoughts are with you,, I too have been struggling with a move to another state that did not work out in all aspects and now trying to sell and move back from where I came from, i always feel that failure is in NOT trying, rather than trying and it not working out.. this too shall pass as my mom use to say.. hugs to you...I came to the narc's door step figuratively, and that brought me my closure to go on with my life, there was a reason for my move and what happens to us all........

I'm sorry you're going through some struggles. I'm starting to believe, and it's not necessarily cynical, but really starting to believe that life is about struggle and triumph. Struggle and triumph.

We have days when we experience one or the other...or even both. I will keep you in my prayers, dear goldie.

Your presence here...and how you personally reached out to me when I first came to this site, will always touch me. You are a blessing.

Hang tough!

Hi, well we come into the world with nothing and we go out with nothing, this much we know. How much we have for material assets obviously enhances our lives and we would all love to be in a position of having plenty more than we need. At some time during my life I have come to understand that eventually we get what we need and not necessarily what we want. I have gone through financial hardship too and it is horrible, but eventually things are paid up and we are moving on. Does it make us happier to have loads and buy everything we want? maybe if we are that way inclined that we are shallow enough to build our persona around life's luxuries. But you are not one of these people Goldie. Everything about you screams out that you care about people, and in so doing you draw people around you with compassion, respect and love. Now how valuable are these commodities..the answer is priceless. Of course they dont pay the bills, but somehow or other we get by and when the hard time has left us for a while, we are still left with our priceless gifts.

I do not believe that only good things happen to good people and likewise the bad people have all the trouble, if anything I think the reverse to be true. But then again I know you dont choose to help others for any kind of self gain, but only in your way to have the knowledge that you are kind enough to reach out if you see a need.

Why would innocent children suffer and those that murder get away with it, if there was any true justice in this life? Do not think that we deserve good things because we have done good things, the reality is, you know, it's not gonna happen.

To sum up, I think what you have is priceless and in the face of adversity you will show your strength, and those that you have helped will step up for you, but mostly you will make the best of what you have, and be grateful for it, and try your best to resolve your issues and carry on. This is what you do and when you have overcome these current set of troubles, you will have shown a wonderful true strength of character. Also your son is one lucky lad to have you as a role model. Out of a disfunctional upbringing you shine like a ray of sunshine, and you are a diamond in the dust.

Brit x

Goldie, I'm willing positive thoughts of prosperity and sending them in your direction... you deserve smoother roads ahead - keep the faith! xoxo

Goldie,
You have shown so much courage by revealing your pain and turmoil---even in this horrible time of distress, you are still helping others. You are amazing and I pray with all of my heart that things get better for you soon.

To you my dear Goldie, a big squishy cyber hug. You are a good person, and here to help us all, I am hoping something good comes your way because you truly deserve it.
I've been dealing with a wave of post narc junk myself, and I'm starting to reframe that I will get through this, maybe not today, just some day.

Thank you so much for posting this, Goldie, and I so very sorry for your pain. I, myself, really needed reminded today that I am not the only person suffering. Even in your time of strife, you are being a strong example for me. You've always been such an inspiration and source of strength. Currently, I too am going through some really tough, depressing times. Actually, I've pretty much been having a steady stream of disasters during the entire two years since xnh D&D'd. My personal disasters have included two badly broken angles, wrecked cars, constant severe health problems, and both my dogs dying horribly within a 6 month period. To put in mildly, I've been having a real "pity party" for myself lately.

Like you, I sometimes get tired of always having to be strong. This past week my second dog died, my mother went into the hospital for 3 days with severe stomach pain, and my employer is currently laying off tons of employees. My immediate boss was forced to stand down from his own position over my group because he stood by his moral convictions concerning the director (the director is another narc that lies, abuses his employees, and takes great pleasure is destroy other people's careers for his own enjoyment).

I am scared right now because I have had strong moments of fear and doubt and it has always been my role to be the strong one for everyone else, yet I too am human and I too have bad days and times and this is a difficult and scary period for me right now.

I do remain Narcfree and I am asking for your support to help me through this difficult period.

I fully understand your feelings here, and really, truly feel for you with all of this hardship on your shoulders. I just wanted you to know that you are not alone. Like you, I believe that everything happens for a reason. I hope and believe that good people will not be taken down. However, sometimes the difficulties in our lives can be almost unbearable. Life truly can seem so unjust.

I want you to know that you are NOT alone. You very much have my support. You are very much in my thoughts and prayers.

Huge hugs for you, and God bless.
Mystwoman