my house is now my happy place

my house is now my happy place
Posted July 16, 2012 - 4:24am
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for months and months i avoided being home because i would be alone to face my problems. instead i would go visit my parents or stay late in work or do anything to avoid being on my own. when i was in the company of others i would hold my negative thoughts inward so that i wouldnt be negative around other people and put them off me, with the result that when i went home they all surfaced and i was miserable

now however, largely thanks to here, i am actually my happiest when at home on my own. i don't really know how it happened but i noticed it yesterday when returning home from my parents house i was looking forward to getting there, as opposed to dreading the lonely week ahead of me

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abreva's picture

very happy for you

August 12, 2012 - 10:29pm — abreva

Very pleased to read that you are happy at home.
That is good news.

:) Abreva

rosedewittbukater's picture

Owen I am so glad for you

August 12, 2012 - 8:25pm — rosedewittbukater

This is great to hear.
I went through a "nesting" phase after the split with mine...lol
I really started focusing on fixing things up around my place. My home became neglected while I was with my ex since everything had to revolve around her and she refused to spend any time at my place (we never lived together).
Also, in general I just started really working on trying to beautify my surroundings inside and outside. Gardening, hanging pretty pictures, etc. I had spent so much time hurting, I now wanted to be surrounded by things that did not remind me of this, and things that I enjoyed looking at.
Home is where the heart is and coming home should be a wonderful feeling. Glad you are finding it!
xx, Rose

lessonlearned's picture

i have read a lot

August 10, 2012 - 10:18am — lessonlearned

of your posts & thoughts over the past couple of months, & i just want to say that i am really impressed with how much reading & work you've done toward healing. if i remember correctly, you're just a young thing still in your 20's? i remember myself at that age & i had nowhere near the maturity & self-reflective capacities that you have demonstrated!

so glad to hear that your home is now a haven & that you are able to enjoy the peace & quiet it provides you. that's a really big deal :) congrats!

owenjohnston's picture

Aww thank you so much for the

August 10, 2012 - 5:20pm — owenjohnston

Aww thank you so much for the comment :)

It's nice to know that people take interest in what I write I guess, and yea I am in my 20s but I've always been mature for my age. Kind of a curse really as I have to wait on everyone else to catch up

Janie53's picture

Sorry posted this in the

August 10, 2012 - 7:47am — Janie53

Sorry posted this in the wrong place.

jelyma's picture

I moved into an apartment

August 10, 2012 - 12:55am — jelyma

I moved into an apartment with my daughter. The best feeling was locking that door and knowing that he can't come in. It is ours and ours alone. We can do want we want, when we want, and how we want! We have banned anything brown (my ex insisted on all chocolate brown and even my bedspread was brown!), have a room dedicated to crafts and music (which we never allowed to leave out), and we keep it clean and tidy all the time! It is finally a home that we both are proud to have our friends and family see us in.

Janie53's picture

Owen

August 12, 2012 - 9:10am — Janie53

Awesome news! I agree, there is no place like home
Stay true to you!

Janie

owenjohnston's picture

wow! when i read about how

August 10, 2012 - 4:21am — owenjohnston

wow! when i read about how controlling some narcs were i kind of think of myself as lucky. mine would never tell me i wasn't allowed to do anything, he would just not say anything to me and then go and cheat or say things behind my back, so i had to second guess everything. i still have no idea what the things were that i did that he didn't like

Rising Dawn's picture

Yay!

July 16, 2012 - 11:17pm — Rising Dawn

I have learned to appreciate my solitude, and I look forward to being home after a stressful day at work to just kick back and relax with no one but me. I am using the time to reflect, read, learn, and just overall enjoying my own company.

I am glad you are finding comfort with yourself! It's a great feeling, isn't it?

indenial's picture

I'm so happy to read this

July 16, 2012 - 8:45am — indenial

Wow this is exactly what I'm doing. Can't be at home I'm filled with depression when I'm at home and keep flitting from one friend to the other just to eacape. It's awful. This gives me hope that this will pass because I can't find solace even in the home I used to love

tootsgee's picture

that's great .. I now have

July 16, 2012 - 5:52am — tootsgee

that's great .. I now have this too! go you! and go me!

I think the big realisation for me was that I was responsible for my own safety and that I could protect myself and that home was the best place to start... xx

Brit's picture

Elusive happiness

July 16, 2012 - 5:26am — Brit

This is progress. Hello happiness, my old friend, where have you been? It happened to me too. It popped up out of nowhere and it had been such a long time missing from my life that, at first, I didn't recognize it.

This friend is a keeper. Happiness grows and is attractive. I am happy you are happy. Win win !!!

Brit x

Froglegs's picture

This is awesome!I'm a firm

July 16, 2012 - 4:28am — Froglegs

This is awesome!

I'm a firm believer of your home being your safe zone.

It totally sucks when your safe zone becomes work, a bar, or somewhere else because you dread going home...the place where you're supposed to be able to be yourself.

Kudos to you! :D