We were together for 2 years & it was very good for me. Both retired early so we were free to take frequent bike trips. We loved the same arts & music, enjoyed each others families. We were kind to each other, exchanging gifts and even sent each other the same cards. We were so right for each other.
Then 2 weeks b 4 i was to fly south to spend the winter in the house I picked for him, he acted distant & cold. I confronted him & he said he was dating online. He thought he loved me but it had changed. He didnt like the times I cooked, the shows I watched or staying up late at night.
I was devastated. I was married to a monster for 30 years & waited 3 years to date after the divorce. I had dated 4 other men b 4 him. One was a somatic & the sex was mind blowing. He didn't love bomb me. We took it slow. We didn't kiss for a month although we saw each other every day. We didn't make love for 3 months. I thought he respected me. My 80 yo mom loved him & we took her out with us.
It's been 6 months since the DD. I meet men who want to date me. I check them out b 4 I agree to go out w/them. They are so full of issues & I won't bother. I don't know if I will ever meet someone that I connect with so well. There was no disrespect or OW while we were together. We lived together & spent all of our time connected to each other.
There's been some LC to exchange belongings. I will not take him back b/c I know he is a disordered who runs & replaces. But I am so sad & heartbroken that this happened. I'm intherapy, read all the blogs, read about NPD. MY therapist thinks he's BPD. Doesn't matter. I was alone in my 30 year marriage & now I fear I'll be alone forever