What I got out of my reading is that primary source of supply is where he prefers to get his supply. Like out in the world where it's dynamic, exciting, and there are many people to extract supply from.

When he doesn't get enough from his primary source they come to US so we can feed the poor depleted Narc of what he needs in order to survive and feel alive.

I may be totally off base here...just my take on what I read.

But your right at the end of the day supply is supply is supply....and abuse is abuse is abuse!!!!

LoserFree :)

If you were primary or secondary supply - both are discarded and if you arent discarded you will be devalued to say the least - According to the books (no pun intended bookkeeper, ha) you were secondary supply I believe, a constant he always had to fall back on - the adoring, supportive, endlessly giving supply he always could count on - Their primary supplies are the new sex organs they are always searching for, the other woman to form the triangle, all those come and go for them - but YOU were the constant that was always there - you would think that would be PRIMARY but its secondary - that always confused me too - like you said it doesnt matter - I have a friend who lived with a psychopath for 4 years and she was always secondary supply for him - he was a sexual predator and that ALWAYS came first in his life - she knew every time he had a new victim she was ignored and devalued for weeks on end - and when he was low on victims she was there to fall back on - she saw the pattern and lived it - she had a keylogger to his pc and she could almost predict her discard and knew when it was coming - in fact from his computer she could follow who he was seeing and meeting and sleeping with - and sure enough a day later all the lies came pouring in - he would come home with the smell of women's private parts on his FACE, she smelled it when she kissed him - Guess he was a lazy psychopath couldnt even wash his face after he had oral sex - I KID YOU NOT - she had to plan her escape very carefully because he was a stalker and violent - she moved 3,000 miles away - she is recovering but the damage he did to her was severe. Be glad you are no longer his bookkeeper - wasting your beautiful self on a sub human x0