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Contempt Citation
blondelover2
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Contempt Citation
Posted June 27, 2012 - 9:28pm
So I am doing well on NC today I get home from therapy and have an email from my attorney, the N is filing contempt charges against me for bad mouthing him to people that live in the community where he is the city manager. Maybe it has something to do with him showing up at an event for his work with his new girlfriend and all the friends that were just at our house for Christmas saying WTF where is Karen? Maybe he is afraid to look bad? So blame me?
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Thank you for posting about the Contempt Citation
June 29, 2012 - 10:23am — abrevaThis is really helpful for me. Thank you for sharing about it. I would very much appreciate it if you kept us updated about this nonsense, because it applies to my situation in particular.
I live in fear that he will come after me legally. He has already threatened me (verbally) with a contempt citation (?) and to take me back for court for custody (immediately after we settled!). Clearly he is just trying to control me and frighten me. It works -- though I give him ZERO indication that it works.
I am currently feeling the fear of this, because ANY interaction I have with him (even when it's via a 3rd party) gets my anxiety and fight/flight stirred up. Even checking the email account I have exclusively for him, stresses me out. UGH.
It's a constant storm with the EXNH-Pscyhopath with whom I share custody of our children. Learning how to weather that storm.
Thanks again,
Abreva.
Control
June 29, 2012 - 10:38am — blondelover2Control is their game, and when they start losing that they freak. I had mentioned to him that I was going to show the sext messages he sent me to the new gf he totally freaked and this is why he is tthreating me with contempt!
So Helpful to point out the WHY of why he's "after" you.
June 29, 2012 - 3:05pm — abreva(I'm going to repost this response as a new thread. http://www.lisaescott.com/forum/2012/06/29/way-psychopath-sabotages)
It's helpful to point out the WHY. My normal-person brain tends to forget that the N/P people operate in the way of destruction and sabotage, but OF COURSE they do.
Talked to attorney
June 28, 2012 - 4:16pm — blondelover2He says he is just trying to threaten me! He is a man with a double personality or two lol.
I said I have 30 plus text messages on my phone actually sext messages which I saved. Told my attorney I would be more than happy to share these with N's attorney. Then let's talk contempt!
I have never dealt with anyone this screwed up ever!!!
Good girl, BL,
June 29, 2012 - 9:21am — spinningknowledge is power. I knew this was complete BS. He still thinks he can control you when you really have all the cards (and a full house I might add) with his sexting messages! The f'n freak! What an idiot.
It is my sincere hope that this helps you attain clarity about the person you are dealing with and that the truth of it makes it easier to detach and press ahead with creating a beautiful life for yourself which will be free of this kind of drama, confusion and manipulation.
I am proud of you and you are doing great, despite how you may be feeling at the moment. It was outstanding of you to talk to your attorney and get the FACTS. Separating the FACTS from the EMOTIONS is one of the best moves you can make in your recovery. This advice was given to me here early on and it truly helped when it came to seeing...and ultimately accepting...the truth.
Love,
(not) spinning. NO WAY. NEVER EVER AGAIN
Contempt
June 28, 2012 - 12:49pm — agnesmurphy17Contempt of what court order? One can only have a contempt if there is a violation of a court order against "bad mouthing."
N has to get the people into court to testify to the "bad mouthing" which you did. (You will be informed of these words which you allegedly said prior to the date.)
I wonder? You do have your First Amendment rights to speech. So you are allowed to say, "N went to the bank & emptied out the joint account. And then sent me a text announcing that he was divorcing me." Now that's the truth. So how is that badmouthing?
In every standard divorce, there is some clause written in there that one should not harass or somehow interfere with the ex in a malicious manner. Is the clause in the divorce which becomes a court order when the the judge grants the divorce -- is this what you've allegedly violated? Your lawyer should send you the pleadings which N filed in court which sets forth what exact order you violated and how you violated it by saying x words or committing x acts.
Seems somehow you got N's goat. Heh. Heh. Sadly, this is going to cost you some legal fees, even if you do win. If it's a sure fire winner, ask your lawyer if there is a way to assess your legal costs to N for filing a frivolous lawsuit.
Blondelover2
June 28, 2012 - 8:27am — Janie53Congrats on the NC; keep moving forward. In answer to your questions, who knows, who cares. Keep the focus on you and stay true to yourself! You are the one that counts!
Janie
blonde
June 28, 2012 - 6:11am — UsedLOL....LET HIM PROVE IT?....
THIS IS ALL RUBBISH FROM HIM..
Exactly, let him prove it..
June 28, 2012 - 9:02am — HunterExactly, let him prove it.. The attorney will drain him dry..
It's could be him posing as an attorney or the attorney is his friend..
Dont do anything..
Hunter
Used is right on, dear bl,
June 28, 2012 - 8:37am — spinningand I hope you understand that this is all about control.
He's still trying to control you.
Do you happen to have the texts where he was soliciting you for sex and orgies and all that crap he was doing just a few weeks ago? Save them if you do.
This guy is full of shit. I rarely use that language here but this so-called "contempt citation" does not hold water! It is exceedingly hard to prove something like this and he would have to prove that he suffered some sort of damages from whatever you allegedly said. What a bunch of crap.
He likely called his attorney (or got the city attorney) and said you were doing this or that and the attorney said "oh, I'll send a letter" and that's that. Whatever. What a f'n wimp!
I hope this helps you detach from this freak who so obviously is willing to go OUT OF HIS WAY to hurt, confuse, intimidate and CONTROL you.
Blow it off and keep pressing ahead. NO CONTACT ALL THE WAY!
Love,
(not) spinning. BUT I'D LIKE TO SEND YOUR FREAK SPINNING RIGHT OUT OF THE UNIVERSE!
Have you been bad mouthing
June 28, 2012 - 5:49am — SparrowHave you been bad mouthing him? Does he have evidence as such? If you haven't, you have nothing to worry about. If you have, than I would discuss this with my lawyer and do some damage control.
This isn't about him looking bad, he looks great as far as he is concerned. This has to do with how YOU perceive him. How dare you see him in poor light. How dare you criticize him. Narcissistic rage comes from being criticized...................
Talk to you lawyer about this and no one else. Talk to your forum friends about him and no one else. In other words, do not speak of him, in any light, good or bad, to anyone else.
Good luck.