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Emjbear
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This weekend
Posted June 22, 2012 - 1:28pm
My lawyer just called, I have to give the kids to him starting this weekend. I dont know that I can do that. How do you give your babies back after your eyes have been opened and you see what really was in that house, how do you knowingly send them into hell.
This sucks serious ass.
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thinking of you
June 23, 2012 - 10:23am — abrevaThinking of you and your kids.
I know it is hard.
Just get through it. Do what it takes to get through it.
It DOES seriously SUCK
June 22, 2012 - 5:02pm — abrevaHoney, I'm sorry. I'm sorry that the system is this way.
Really.
It will feel the way it feels this weekend.
The first time the EXNH-Psycho had the kids was terrible for me. I was shaking.
The next time is was less bad.
It took a long time and a lot of effort for me not to suffer when the kids were away.
My whole life is devoted to patching them back together when they return from him.
I am resentful of that, but there is nothing else to be done.
So, darling, just ride the wave of this. It's a horrible wave, but it WILL get better.
It really will. I'm not just saying that.
Restraining Order
June 22, 2012 - 5:04pm — abrevaAnd, I'm SOOOOOO glad you got a restraining order.
I hope you renew that thing FOREVER.
It will make your life easier.
I wish I had pursued a permanent restraining order (I didn't for lots of reasons, some good some bad. I did the best I could at the time, with what I had.)
My heart goes out to you and
June 22, 2012 - 2:37pm — He took everythingMy heart goes out to you and your children during this time and I will keep you all in my prayers over the weekend.
Love and light <3
Unfortunately we have to Emj.
June 22, 2012 - 1:32pm — DawnWinsUnfortunately we have to Emj. I remember the first time I had to send my boys back I was a complete wreck.
Question, the abuse, was it directed only at you or at the kids? Reason I ask is because exNH really never took out his anger with the boys, just the girls in the house. So in a small way I felt better that he never really hurt my boys physically, just emotionally.
I hope you have someone to do the exchange for you. Do not be alone with him.
According to the court he was
June 22, 2012 - 1:38pm — EmjbearAccording to the court he was only abusive with me. or not abusive enough with them. He yells a lot, he has no patience especially for my little girl she has special needs. I am mostly concerned of what he will say to them, the things he will tell them. My little girl doesnt understand things well and her little brain doesnt process things, so if he tells her "Mommy put me in jail" or "Mommy is mean to me" she will come un done and I dont know that I could get her back. She borders on inverting into her little mind and it takes a lot to keep her functioning and I dont want him to crush her little spirit, she has fought so hard, beaten all odds to get as far as she is today.
The restraining order states that he has to pick up and drop off at my parents house. I wont be there. I will take them early and pick them up after he is gone.
I dont know where you got your strength to do it, but I am very proud of you for being such a good mom. I just want my son and daughter to be safe and happy. thats all i ever wanted.
sucks
June 23, 2012 - 5:19pm — Pearl430It angers me that Narcs manipulate children. It is disgusting.Just reassure them and send them off with a smile even if it kills you. Your home is full of love and keep that consisitent. Sooner or later he will get his.
He will pick the kids up
June 22, 2012 - 5:07pm — HunterHe will pick the kids up once or twice.. He has interest in seeing his kids..., when he fails to meet his obligations make sure you document ..
That's said yes is sucks ass.,,
You can do this and don't you dare release the RO ..
Hunter
I'm always amazed at how we
June 22, 2012 - 2:17pm — Deidre99I'm always amazed at how we need a license to fish, but not one to be a parent. This abusive jerk gets to be alone with his kids, it's amazing how shitty our court system is.
Granted, he may treat them 'better' than he treats you, but he sounds very unstable, and the courts should want a stable environment for your kids.
Um, if someone NEEDS a restraining order...doesn't that show he is NOT stable? hello?
Unreal, our justice system.
You will get through this, pray, and keep your chin up. Things will get better. Glad you have a drop off situation set up so you will not have to deal with him.