Well my N left in 2010 because I found out some info about him that was devastating. We married last year in 2011 and will be divorced July of 2012. I have spoken with my N's first wife, baby mama, and some ex gf and this is his history. I thought for the longest he left because I was older, full figured all sorts of crap. In reality he is emotionally closed and it fits perfectly with NPD. I don't post a lot because I'm just sitting back reading and trying to educate myself with all the knowledge that is here. Just work the plan like the mods tell us and I believe you will rise to the top where you deserve to be.. Good luck and God bless!