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Who is real and as nice/nicer than the N was in the beginning?
Any relationship that's starts at an extreme high had no where to go but down..
Remember that.. Normal means slow and steady..
These creeps know exactly what they are doing.. Keep reading you will become as disgusted as I am when I think about these freaks ..
They stop at nothing to hurt and destroy!!
see thats the problem for me, the thought of getting to know someone all over again and having to wait for a relationship to blossom over years just to get to the point where my first one was. i loved the idea of being settled and living with someone, i have to wait years and years for this to happen again
I am absolutely certain sure that you will find love again and with someone that deserves you and your love. Often we have to try out a few potential partners before we get it right.
Make sure you don't give away your heart again to someone who will hurt you. Listen to your gut, look for the red flags, you will know how to spot a fraud now.
You have had a bad experience but you will learn from this, NEVER EVER LET ANOTHER PERSON ABUSE YOU AGAIN.
Make sure you do as much reading as your brain can handle Owen!! There are nice people out there, it's up to us to weed out the disordered ones.
Once you are stronger and ready to go again, you will find a confidence in yourself you never had before. That and you'll be able to spot a narc from 50 feet!! ;-)
this made me smile so much :)
sometimes we drive ourselves crazy, thinking nothing will ever change so thank you for your advice and for taking the time to reply :)
You are young and have so much living ahead of you! In some ways it is "a blessing" that you received this brutal lesson so early on. You will now be wary of the red flags, your instincts will be honed and you will not fall into a trap like this again. It will just take time to trust yourself and your instincts.
I feel so badly that your first experience with love, which was very real on your part, turned out to be at the hands of a predator. If I may observe, I believe that's why you were targeted by him. I believe he saw your earnestness, your wish to have a loving experience, your kindness and your tender heart.
Unfortunately that PLAYER stomped all over it and when you pointed out that you knew he was cheating, it just all became "too much" for him and he bolted.
Owen, I want you to know that there are many good, loving men out there that will cross your path. Focus on what you want in a relationship. Picture that relationship coming into your life. Work on sweeping out the destruction from the PLAYER as much as possible to make room in your life for the love and relationship you desire and deserve.
Believe in yourself and your ability to attract a wonderful relationship filled with true love and it will be yours.
I'm old enough to be your mom, owen, and I never ever thought I could meet a nice, non-disordered, fun, funny and hot guy who would treat me well and like me for who I am but guess what...I did, and we have known each other for almost a year! You will too!
(not)spinning. AND SO VERY GRATEFUL FOR THAT
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