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Posted June 22, 2012 - 10:50am
Is there something about this stage of NC? I've seen a lot of posts by other members who have been members for the same length of time that I have who are struggling with giving up, anger and sadness. I am definitely struggle with all of these feelings on a constant basis as well. I am in counseling, constantly reading and keeping busy and yet I still feel very "stuck", for lack of a better word.
Just curious I guess if some of you members who have been at this longer experienced the same feelings during this time frame.
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As it pains me to write this,
June 22, 2012 - 11:49am — Deidre99As it pains me to write this, I don't want to candy coat it. Even at 6 MONTHS, you may still feel this way. (albeit, less and less)
I'd say, not until you reach about 9 months, do you start to really embrace what you were dealing with, and you are able to really really let it go. And around that time, if you remained NC for that long, you realize the role you played, and you begin the necessary work on yourself.
6 weeks is AWESOME...and you should be proud, not feeling defeated.
But, in order to get to 3 months....6 months...9 months...a year...and so on, you have to wade through this part of it. It sucks some days, but it will get better and brighter.
If you don't do any work on you during NC, then you can be NC for ten years, and still feel in despair.
It takes not only NC, but also working on what we need to, to get out of the fog completely.
You can do this...YOU ARE DOING THIS! Be brave. Be strong. :)
Wow! Thank you for your reply
June 22, 2012 - 2:32pm — He took everythingWow! Thank you for your reply and I appreciate your honesty.
I've decided to go back to school in the fall and do something for me....one of my goals I'm setting for myself! Also going to continue to stay active on here and in counseling.
I sure do look forward to every day not feeling like groundhog day!