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EAD46
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EAD46's Story
Posted June 16, 2012 - 11:49pm
He's going away, I don't want to answer his calls
Hi - I'm a new member & happy to find support on this site. I'm 49 & have been in a relationship with a man I now know is a Narc for the past 4 mos. i've been reading what is written on this site & so very much of it recently I've caught him in a web of lies... He is taking a mysterious trip back east (without me, which I have a very bad gut feeling about, fearing he's being deceitful). He's been secretive about where he's going, what he's doing, etc.
I feel like he keeps me in the closet & I know he will text me, call
and email me for the entire 10 days he's gone. I see this as *manipulative.
I don't want him to call ... I just don't want to hear the lies! He lied about this trip in the 1st place, (he says he's visiting his sister's family but his Ex is there & he has lied about his involvement with her in the past). At this point, I don't believe anything he tells me about this trip!!!
who he will be seeing, what the trip's for, etc.
While he's gone. What I really want to tell him is don't even contact me at all while you're away on your damn secret mystery trip!
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WLD, then tell him exactly that...
June 18, 2012 - 9:47am — spinning...cut your losses at four months. It will not get better.
Do not be afraid to listen to your gut. This is why most of us land here after years of abuse; we allowed that gut voice to grow fainter and fainter.
You already know everything you need to know about this "person," and this trip. You do not need nor want any more "scrambled egg" words from him as you already know they are meaningless.
We have a saying here that you watch the ACTIONS, not the WORDS, as pretty words are a dime a dozen and these freaks spew them with ease.
You will lose nothing but self-doubt, confusion, feeling badly about yourself, and being lied to and manipulated by telling him not to contact you again.
There is no reason to stay in it, dear Wld. Doing so just prolongs your agony and believe me it does not get better, it just gets worse.
You are not alone. We will help you. Trust those who have walked in your shoes before you. More importantly, trust your gut and trust yourself. You will be so glad you did.
Love,
(not) spinning. IT'S A CHOICE AND I CHOOSE MYSELF!
You're right
June 17, 2012 - 12:55am — NarcSurvivor3You have every right to be suspicious because he is not being honest with you and you know it. Listen to your intuition. More than that, you need to think about getting out and running far, far away.