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Discarding MAJOR sources
Lila
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Discarding MAJOR sources
Posted June 17, 2012 - 1:24pm
Why would a narcissist discard a MAJOR source of supply? I mean a such major source that could give him ALL, a wealthy country to live in with access to health and riches?
Would a narcissist rather discard such a major source, but who also inflicted NI on him, MORE than being exposed for the liar and false persona he is?
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yes we are like toys
June 17, 2012 - 2:39pm — Lilato be tossed away, like a used tissue :(
Layla, what is UP? lol
"UP" is opposite of the pits of hell with the PD.
June 17, 2012 - 2:40pm — Layla: )
love~ Layla
lol I think I may
June 17, 2012 - 3:20pm — Lilahave been dizzy confusing the word UP with I thought it was a shortening for something :)
Love,
Lila
Think of it like this....
June 17, 2012 - 2:29pm — LindsayMI have a toy I like this toy I am going to play with it for awhile and soon like a child he gets bored with the toy and says I do not want this toy anymore I am going to toss it away and get a new toy so they need a new toy and it goes on and on and on....
They "discard" EVERYONE!
June 17, 2012 - 2:13pm — Laylahttp://psychopathyawareness.wordpress.com/2010/12/22/the-psychopaths-rel...
Ladies please READ and keep on reading!
Even if you are living with them and married to one (as I was!) if they don't discard you physically, they discard you emotionally and ignore you in the relationshit (unless they are dumping their toxic emotional garbage on you of course, then you WISH they were ignoring you!) Please read, read and read some more on this disorder until you get it.
BE GLAD if they discarded you! There is no reason why other than THIS IS WHAT THEY DO TO EVERYONE! It's as simple as that- they are DISORDERED!
Yes, early on it's hard but with time, and reading things will start to click and you will get it.
Knowledge is power! READ.
love~ Layla
Layla..this hit the nail on the head
June 17, 2012 - 5:44pm — TruthbeginsTodayEverything in this article made sense. This was/ is my life.It's all true.
Thank you so much for posting it. I need to cry...and then I'll read it again.
I'm confused a bit though. Narcissists vs Psychopaths? I know that all P's are N's but what is the big difference?
Truth
Truth.
June 17, 2012 - 6:09pm — LaylaThe biggest difference is that narcissists seek attention and admiration and thrive on this and psychopaths do not. Both can be abusive and exploitative and are huge liars, manipulators and cheaters. A psychopath will "take" any admiration and attention of course as this makes it EASIER for them to get what they want but if they have to, they will resort to malicious tactics and even violence if they have to when they want something. Psychopaths just want to WIN and have their own way. Total control at all costs.
My abuser is a psychopath.
love~ Layla
Thats right
June 17, 2012 - 6:45pm — Lilapsychopaths doesnt need attention like narcissists does. Narcissist can also cross fertilize with psychopath and then we get a narcissistic psychopath, this is when they exhibit traits of both disorders, but all in all narcissists and psychopaths, the hallmark is they lack empathy and disregard others rights and needs totally.
I believe mine is a mix of both.
Layla, you are BRILLIANT!
June 17, 2012 - 3:21pm — wshYou said, "if they don't discard you physically, they discard you emotionally and ignore you in the relationshit....." THIS is the best description of my (& I'll bet most of us) "marriage" EVER!! I simply felt INVISIBLE & a total NON-entity in this $%^&*("relationshit"). & for me, that was the worst thing of all! How can anyone deal with anything at all, when one is simply IGNORED??? Except of course to be told how FUCKED UP/WRONG/NUTS you are???? Yet I don't think mine would EVER have "dumped" me - my $$$$ was too important to him! I kinda wish he would have - maybe would have saved me some bullshit - but whatever it takes, main thing is to GET AWAY FROM THESE DESTRUCTIVE, EVIL PEOPLE!
I can relate, wsh
June 17, 2012 - 3:31pm — LilaI was ignored and ignored when the devaluation phase had set in, that time I didnt know what was going on. They only care about themselves and what others can do for them, if not being perfect and obedient no matter how much abuse we are exposed too, we are discarded as yesterdays trash.
Hi Layla, I have been reading
June 17, 2012 - 2:24pm — beautifulmessHi Layla, I have been reading until my eyes are blurry..maybe there are some things I will never understand. Praying for the day I no longer care.
That day will come with No Contact and knowledge of the PD.
June 17, 2012 - 2:28pm — LaylaComplete comfort and indifference to the PD is granted to ALL who remain no contact and reasonably understand the disorder.
You are on the right path, The Path Forward. And some of the days on this path aren't fun, and we aren't happy go lucky free but you WILL get there, YOU WILL! Keep moving your feet one in front of the other. No where for us to go but UP! : )
love~ Layla
hi Layla
June 17, 2012 - 2:21pm — Lilabut when the source is still useful and the narcissists throws away ALL he could have right before he could have it, isnt that weird? because as I have read if they still know their victims are useful and MAJOR sources they dont discard them, right?, or doesnt this matter to them we are still major sources and 100% useful?
NO ONE matters to them- NO ONE.
June 17, 2012 - 2:24pm — LaylaTrying to figure out how these fools think is a complete waste of time. They live in the "now" constantly and what is useful to them one day, may not be so the next. NO rhyme or reason to them. They are impulsive, and their wants and perceived needs change constantly because they are NEVER happy with what they have. EVER. No one single person will ever be enough for them, no matter what they do, what they have, or what they look like.
NO ONE.
I realize at first we have many questions in relation to the PD, and this is where "understanding it" is crucial but the time will come when you WILL understand the disordered, and you will STILL have questions about yours to which you will NEVER get a concrete answer. READ.
love~ Layla
Thanks Layla...I think I get it..
June 17, 2012 - 2:32pm — LilaI was thinking the narc maybe would rage over having thrown away such major sources who were still useful, but when they change like the wind and live in the here and now, I can understand that they dont care what they cared so intensely about before.
Love,
Lila
I am interested to hear the
June 17, 2012 - 1:46pm — beautifulmessI am interested to hear the answer to this too as I was a major source. Would he do this because I was such a good source that it was no longer "fun"? Became too predictable and boring, too easy? Even he said at one point with disgust that he could treat me any way he wanted and I would put up with it.. Of course he denied ever saying this afterwards.
hi beautifulmess..
June 17, 2012 - 2:05pm — Lilayes its weird..and knowing that narcissists are aware what they do, I would think they also would know how stupid or self destructive it is of them to discard us.