From what the ex said he was telling her he still loved and missed her..yet telling her he was off to meet his new woman (me) only because I did not know this, I didnt know I was the new woman so to speak....

...it makes me think because after he "dumped" me two weeks ago, he managed to get through an email saying he just cant be with me, it dosent work with me, but still loves me and misses me and what am I up to?.............Then yesterday he emailed saying something I ordered online (before the D and D) had come to his house and when did I want to come and get it...........? I got angry and replied back what I think of him, which I now regret as I should have just ignored it.

these were from the OW, after i found out about her & called to confirm that he'd been sleeping with her while he was living with me & pushing me to marry him.

a little backround: my exN had parents who lived 1.5 hours from me, & during the unravelling of our relationshit, his father was dying of cancer. of course i blamed a lot of his angry & weird behavior at that time on the fact that his dad was dying & it had to be stressful for him. i gave him the benefit of the doubt over & over again when things seemed "off" simply because of his father's illness & passing. here are a few of his N maneuvers during that time...

at easter, his ex wife flew in from halfway across the country with his young children (whom he never sees) so that they could have a final visit with their dying grandfather. a neighbor had volunteered their house to the out-of-town guests, as they were going to be away. (i was at home with my child & had commitments at church that evening, but planned to join the family on easter sunday). it turns out that the N had arranged for everyone to stay at his parents' house, & he then used the neighbor's house to spend the night with the OW having sex. on easter morning there was an egg hunt, brunch, happy pictures (me included), & speeches by the N to his kids about how i was going to be their new stepmom. ha ha ha.

on the day of the N's father's funeral, i was at the church with his family, rehearsing a solo & practicing as a pallbearer. his mother said he'd gone out for cigarettes. it turns out that he'd gone down to the local library to make out with the OW in the stacks while the rest of us were all crying into our tissues & waiting on him at the church.

during the week after the 1st D & D, the N moved back home with his now newly widowed mother, professing his love for me & claiming that he'd do anything to make things right between us (she told me this at the end of that week). turns out he'd been going down to the local bar at night, getting plastered, & sneaking the OW back to his mother's house to screw her in the basement guest room. his father had died in that same house just 2 months earlier.

i found all of this out from the OW (she had no idea i existed, of course, because he was busy telling her how much he loved her & planning their life together)

bottom line: they are mental. they have no problem overlapping women because they are always looking for their next fix, someone they can suck dry & use up before tossing them away. i am so glad that i spoke with her, because that was just the tip of the iceberg of lies that he was floating, & the realization of what he was actually capable of was so very valuable to me to be able to cut him off completely.