Really?? Get some new material!!

Really?? Get some new material!!
Posted June 13, 2012 - 11:07am
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Ladies and gentleman,

I am posting yet another set of texts that I received last night. I only do this because I used to wonder (before I discovered what a NARC is) about their weird use of language and if it was just me that was crazy...I find it to be disgusting but fascinating in a sense. I REALLY do hope that if anyone here wonders the same thing, about crazy talk and projection, they will be able to find some similarities in the way they speak that will help them see the NARCS for what they are..IT IS NOT YOU!!! STILL NC AND LOVING IT!!

These were received over a 2 hour period last night.

Text # 1
I am 37 years old and know what I want I want for my life. You were my world, too bad I wasn't yours. I can change and be better but you would rather be arrogant and not see the good I brought. I look past all of your neglect while you send me to voice mail and never respond, and you think I don't deserve another chance? Sorry to burst your cocky bubble you are not the only woman in the city. Good lusk Melia, no games, no lies no manipulation, you wont hear from me again. Remember, you were a reflection of me!!

Text #2
Still, you put me to voicemail when I am trying to reach out to you! Listen to your voice mail you unnappreciative asshole! I love you and don't want to start over! I want to be with you! U fucking win! I never abused you or cheated (((LIES!!!))) U fucked me over again!! Cant you see that I love you!! FUCK OFF MELIA!!

Text #3

This is why I get angry! You shit on my feelings like it's nothing!Fuck you Melia, you heartless mother fucker! I should have never turned around last night and got off that plane!! I could not leave because I didn't want to leave us for good!! I am done!! One day you will see what you gave up you arrogant mother fucker!! You will never hear from me again!!

Text #4

All this bullshit for what? Because I dont want to throw my relationship away? Unbelievable!! You are the one who can't change!! U still disregard me! All good..I cant do this anymore!! I was willing to change!! We have issues that could have been fixed through counseling! I would have been better! I fucking HATE YOU and wish I NEVER MET YOU!!

Text #5

Even when I am being 100 with you, you cut me down. I don't want to move on! I want us to be good to each other! You would rather keep your distance than embracing me! What makes you better than me?? I will deal with this and get over you!! You are a coward!! Thanks for making me single when I don't want to be!! Leave me alone!

Text # 6

I love you Melia!!

FUCKING CRAZINESS!!! I can not believe that I thought I was going crazy for over a year when this is the kind of talk I was listening to!! It was a severe case of brainwashing and conditioning and I can not believe I let myself question my own instincts! I am a strong, independent, intelligent person!! These are some SICK FUCKS!!!
THE MADNESS OF IT ALL!!

‹ Anexity Overload coparenting and making the kids spin...do they do this? ›
beautifulmess's picture

Ok, I wish I could laugh at

June 13, 2012 - 10:08pm — beautifulmess

Ok, I wish I could laugh at these! But a lot of them sound like my pathetic texts to N in response to his ST. The more ST the more pathetic my texts got. Often I would say I am not texting you again .. Then 5 mins later.. Send him another one. Now of course I feel like an idiot. Does this mean I am crazy too? On Day 3 NC.

beautifulmess's picture

Well, actually maybe #1

June 13, 2012 - 10:12pm — beautifulmess

Well, actually maybe #1 sounds like me .. The other ones dont really make sense.. I like to think my texts made some sense.

NarcJunkie's picture

Hahaha... thanks for making me laugh!

June 13, 2012 - 6:48pm — NarcJunkie

Wow... this Narc is desperate!
So that's what happens to them when they have absolutely no supply.. they completely lose it!
Thanks for sharing :)

Sickofhim's picture

Whoa!!

June 13, 2012 - 6:05pm — Sickofhim

That screams projection. He's outta hand!

Deidre99's picture

haha melia...i just realized,

June 13, 2012 - 2:40pm — Deidre99

haha melia...i just realized, after reading your opening paragraph again, that ALL these texts came in on the same night. hahahaa

he was busy. ;)

melia's picture

Yes Deidre!!

June 13, 2012 - 3:00pm — melia

Not only in the same night..but over a little under 2 HOURS..FREAKING WACK JOB!

I can only hope he was having a nervous breakdown..but we all know it would be just because he does not know how he is going to pay something and he needed money or sick validation of some sort.

Busy he was!! :)

Canada's picture

Classic!

June 13, 2012 - 2:14pm — Canada

Personally I love this nugget:

"You will never hear from me again!!" (tons of indignant emotion)
Next text 5 minutes later...
And the next 5 minutes after that...

YOU GO GIRL, block them!

melia's picture

Isn't that weird how they do

June 13, 2012 - 3:04pm — melia

Isn't that weird how they do that!! Making a definite power statement like NEVER, and then 5 minutes later, here he goes again... I mean...DUH!!!

I wish I could just punch him in his face...idiot.

They are legends in their own minds. Nothing to offer in any way, shape or form..but dammit!! We are going to regret giving them up!! OMG..I just have to laugh!!

This material of his is now of entertainment value to me. It keeps me amused in a weird way!!

abreva's picture

BLOCK

June 13, 2012 - 1:44pm — abreva

Okay, this is really helpful that you share this non-sense with us, because it is classic. So, I'm glad you posted. But, my dear, WHY are you still allowing the texts to get through? Do you need to be LC for custody? If so, then there are ways to put a stop to these abusive texts.

luvapug's picture

Wow! Mine through a temper

June 13, 2012 - 1:26pm — luvapug

Wow! Mine through a temper tantrum similar a few weeks back...gave me the whole "never speak to me again, leave me be and I don't love you and will NEVER love you again!" All because I asked if he was on a certain singles site, that I saw on his page when we first broke up! Saw it for myself and he said I was making shit up. Even worse, I was NC for nearly 2 months (which I did myself, while he kept texting) and he hooked me in with an email about him being deployed...tells me he misses me, still loves me and wants to keep a civil communication, then he tells me to F off and stop contacting him??? Makes me think "OK...I did it before and will again". He hasn't tried to contact me since...complete mindf*ck!

-Theresa

Hunter's picture

Same idiot different body..

June 13, 2012 - 11:56am — Hunter

Same idiot different body.. Seriously .. If he were normal he would show his love with actions not this scrambled eggs "BULLSHIT" I'm guessing he has nothing better to do..

DELETE,DELETE,DELETE

Hunter

Deidre99's picture

Melia, this is priceless.

June 13, 2012 - 11:38am — Deidre99

Melia, this is priceless. wow. He calls you an asshole and the next sentence, says 'I love you.'

If it weren't so sad, it'd be funny.

What I take away from this is that often times, a narcissist...a very typical argument 'style' for them...is to turn the tables, 'pretend' to not understand why we are ignoring them, and then almost make it look like WE are the narcissists!

It holds true here as well.

I think I'd block him, but that's just me. (or change my number) In a moment of weakness, I think it's highly possible to reply. Not saying you will, but seeing this negative nonsense day in day out, is not helpful to your progress. That's just my two cents worth on that.

You know what he is. I don't see the point in reading his drivel anymore.

Canada's picture

Bang on with this: "a very

June 13, 2012 - 2:16pm — Canada

Bang on with this: "a very typical argument 'style' for them...is to turn the tables, 'pretend' to not understand why we are ignoring them, and then almost make it look like WE are the narcissists!"

Always and forever, their tactic when pushed up against the wall will remain projection.

Tacticus Projecticus!

spinning's picture

Wow, Melia! This is about the hundreth

June 13, 2012 - 11:18am — spinning

time this freak has said "you won't hear from me again..."

It's so predictable it's hilarious. I hope you don't mind but truly it is hilarious!

I'll say it again...Melia, you mean you don't just want to go racing back into his arms with those "endearing, loving" words? You big meany you!! :)

This guy came right out of the textbook, Melia. I am so glad you see the truth now. This is the beauty of no contact. The fog lifts, clarity ensues, and you realize just how "scrambled eggs" they really are.

I do wonder, though, why isn't he blocked? Reading the texts seems to have a payoff for you and I'm glad that you are not tempted to break no contact. However it will be great when you reach the day that you won't even bother with anything to do with him.

Keep up the great, great work.

Love,
(not) spinning. JUST GRINNING AT THE ABSURDITY AND PATHETICNESS OF THESE FREAKS

melia's picture

Spinning and Diedre

June 13, 2012 - 12:00pm — melia

Reading these idiotic texts from this crazy ass keeps my rage alive. It reminds me of who/what he is. I have NO desire to answer any of his texts. I can't explain it, but I actually gain strength from them and the push forward is much easier.

It is this type of utter lunacy that woke me up to begin with! I never want my mind to wander off into the land of "oh, but we had such good times!" I guess the texts from this retard is my way of keeping a journal, noting the behavior without having to write it down..but straight from the horse's mouth so to speak.

They are a reminder as to WHY I ended up in a black hole because now, everything is so DAMN CLEAR!! I am so pissed at myself that I ever even entertained this revolting piece of shit!

I know my reasoning may sound strange, it may not make sense, but as long as I keep this electronic journal and never forget who or what he is, I know that I will remain on the right track.

SCREW HIM!!!

Love,
Melia

Deestarr's picture

I understand why

June 13, 2012 - 10:05pm — Deestarr

I understand why u keep the texts.... Its the same reason why I haven't blocked exN from fb yet. Seeing which pics he puts up as his profile and cover photo (cause he knows I see it .... ) is actually funny! And a reminder of how childish he is and when I see the pics of him and the OW reminds me of how much he betrayed me and reminds me not to contact him!

I can't believe the texts your N sent.... So crazy.... He completely turns the tables. Stay strong, you don't need someone like that in your life.

x

Janie53's picture

Melia

June 13, 2012 - 1:48pm — Janie53

It sounds as though you are moving forward which is awesome. I will speak for myself though regarding the NC rule. Though you are using these mixed message texts as a reminder of who and what he is, they also serve as a distraction on the real focus of the journey and that is you.

Any type of contact keeps him in the loop; delete and block; set yourself completely free to work on you. It is the most liberating and peaceful feeling in the world.

Stay true to you!
Janie

Deidre99's picture

actually...i think your

June 13, 2012 - 12:23pm — Deidre99

actually...i think your reasoning sounds so cool. lol seriously. i wouldn't have thought of it that way.

i kind of understand. i remember last year, my ex would bait me. i'd break nc. (i broke up with him, so much of his hoovering had to do with revenge, and humiliating me) he would cut me down...and then, he'd say...leave me alone! or 'get rid of my number!'

i would stay nc for a few more weeks...then, the baiting continued.

eventually, i stopped. i think keeping a 'log' of these conversations would have served me well, perhaps. lol

good for you, and may you continue staying strong with all this! ((hug))

DawnWins's picture

Your reasoning does NOT sound

June 13, 2012 - 12:07pm — DawnWins

Your reasoning does NOT sound strange, we all need reminders of how effed up they all are.

Melia, I get the same things, exNH isn't as vulger with the name calling, he just goes on and on about changing. If I had the laughing hysterically emoticon, I'd insert it here ;-) And I laugh along with the texts because they are all so pathetic and he had many years to change and chose not to.

spinning's picture

I get it, Melia...

June 13, 2012 - 12:02pm — spinning

and know that the payoff right now is valuable to you.

One day you won't need it and that will free you even more!

I am proud of you. Clarity is BLISS!!

Love,
(not) spinning. JUST GRINNING...AND WINNING...LIKE YOU!