I'm not sure if I'm posting in the right forum or not, so please let me know if this isn't the right place.
How do you deal with a situation in which you'll see your ex-narc in a social setting, and perhaps often? We are ballroom dancers. The night we broke up, he said he wanted to continue to "grow as friends" and wanted us to continue dancing together. (Then he tried to sleep with me, ha. Sigh). The next day, he texted and called and asked if I'd be at a dance that night. I immediately called for NC, and that went fine for 7 weeks (at which point he texted trying to return something of mine--I told him to mail it).
I've been avoiding the dances he goes to, but I would like to go back at some point because I miss the place and the people there. It is a painful situation as he is like a little king there, and his ex is like the queen... I just discovered the term triangulating on this site, and I believe he was doing that with us. She was the ex I could never live up to, the one he talked about constantly and watched while with me.
I can't image dancing with him again. The thought of touching him would upset me so much. I'm so glad to be not with him, but you know how it goes... it is hard to get over these a-holes, and for us the sex was pretty great. :/ I feel like touching him would be so difficult and painful. And even being in the room with him would make me feel anxious and low.
Maybe I just need to keep staying away for awhile?