Just an anecdote for your amusement - on the topic of projection and audacity. My ExN has picked up on the fact that he may talk about himself a little too much, and this may tip off others to the fact that he is a N. He works on his "profile" on dating sites like it is a work of art he is trying to perfect. One of my dear friends called me laughing about his recent post, "I am an honest and decent guy" and under What am I looking for in a mate? "Just be honest, don't lie." She almost choked, and I did too, we were laughing so hard. I know it may be a technical break in NC, but the fact that I can laugh about it now means I am getting better. Just think about the woman he attracts with this whopper -- just a short time passes and she starts dealing with his constant lies, won't she remember him being an "honest and decent" guy who wanted someone who was "honest and didn't lie" ???? If these guys were actually able to be real, instead of faking it to appear real, they would save everyone involved a whole lot of time !!!