Go threw and empty your pocketbooks!!!!!

Go threw and empty your pocketbooks!!!!!
Posted May 30, 2012 - 6:47am
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As we all know or are learning.....going no contact means to basically erase them from our life....blocking phone numbers, blocking emails, blocking fb.....blocking every connection to him and his family/friends!!! Then throwing out pictures and items that can remind us and bring us pain....REMEMBER....no contact is to prevent us from pain!!!

I thought I had it all covered.

Well today, I was switching pocketbooks and inside the one I was switching to I found food shopping lists with his writing, the menu to his surprise party I threw him and some other things that reminded me of THE GOOD TIMES...THE MASKED MAN!!!!! So of course I threw it all out....had a moment that lasted very briefly and now Im over it....

But it made me think of all of you!!!! I NEVER thought to GO THREW MY POCKETBOOKS AND EMPTY ALL THE CONTENTS INSIDE!!!!!!!

DO IT NOW!!!! Youll be glad you did and will avoid an unpleasant surprise in the future!!

Keep moving!!!! Happy Wednesday!!!

xoxo

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Reason2Believe's picture

Going to

May 30, 2012 - 4:29pm — Reason2Believe

Sell the jewelry that Wanna B gave me. Thought of mailing it back to him or leaving it at his mother's-but refuse to let him give it to the new GF. Let him spend more of his stolen money on stuff for her. I might even be able to buy a plane ticket for a nice getaway with the proceeds! Good thing he had good taste in jewelry!
F him.

Reason

janemarie's picture

The one and only thing my

May 30, 2012 - 4:44pm — janemarie

The one and only thing my idiot EVER bought me (with my own money I will add) was a beautiful diamond heart shaped necklace....when I left him I left it on his daughters dresser with a heartfelt note.....

I miss his children dearly....they were like my own....I have heard that she wears it:)

Other than that....everything got thrown in the trash....just as I was thrown!!!!

Whatever....just get rid of it...

New memories....narc free memories!!!!

Hunter's picture

Great idea Jane.. Going

May 30, 2012 - 10:16am — Hunter

Great idea Jane..

Going forward .. Life is about creating memories .. Up and downs., my pockets need to be checked everyday.,

When a mask slips the pockets continue get emptied..
As you said its not just the narc that got us to the forum but the narcs we encounter in our daily lives as well.., it's best to keep our pockets tidy .,

Knowledge is power ..
Hunter

DawnWins's picture

I bought a new top for my

May 30, 2012 - 9:04am — DawnWins

I bought a new top for my last bday, little did I know he was throwing a surpise engagement party.

I threw that shirt out :-)

Walkingonsunshine's picture

Hehe I even threw out

May 30, 2012 - 8:07am — Walkingonsunshine

Hehe I even threw out articles of clothing that reminded me of him. pj's that I wore at his house. I still have one thing hard to let go off. A heart necklace. It will be gone soon though.

Janie53's picture

Good point JM. I think it is

May 30, 2012 - 8:48pm — Janie53

Good point JM. I think it is great to be as proactive as we possibly can and to get rid of as much as much as possible that reminds us of them. At the same time, I think depending on how long one was with their N, or if one was married, it may be impossible to completely rid yourself of everything having to do with them. It is equally as important to reach an understanding of the disorder, accepting we can't change them, what brought us on this path and finally getting to the blissful home of indifference. Then when we do run across a reminder, we can toss it away as if it was just an receipt, we no longer need. No thought involved at all.

Keep staying true as I know you do!
Love Janie