Today's the day I initiate NC

Today's the day I initiate NC
Posted May 18, 2012 - 6:08am
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It feels like a good day to scrape off a loser :)

I haven't initiated contact for 6 days - no texts or emails from me at all, and I've had nothing from him in that time either. There are a few loose ends to tie up, as he thinks we're 'staying friends' so I need to return some stuff somehow.

But today I cull him from my online life, no more creeping, no more 'just checking'. Delete him from anywhere his existence overlaps with mine.

Wish me luck, ladies ...

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eyeswideopen35's picture

hey emva, i too suggest have

May 21, 2012 - 6:14am — eyeswideopen35

hey emva, i too suggest have a third party deliver his things.
I meet up with mine one month after he left so we could mutually swap each others things.
he turned up, with a big smug look on his face and when i asked were my stuff was he said.." oh sorry, i forgot to bring your things, ill have to get back to you soon", that was 3 months ago... more games!

it set me back seeing him too i thought i was stronger but it killed me seeing him being all smug and charming acting like nothing had happened!

ergh still makes me sick to think of it!

janemarie's picture

Best of luck to you...once

May 18, 2012 - 7:52am — janemarie

Best of luck to you...once you erase them...you become YOU again!!!!

you wrote...I need to return some stuff somehow.

I had a whole bin of stuff...I waited till 2 am when the world was sleeping....delivered it to his house and put it on his driveway....it hurt to see his house..."MY" house but I didnt have to look at him, or anyone....just dumped it and left...No note...

Sometimes we have to take measures like this to keep NC and just to avoid them....but for now...thats ok

It will not be forever...

Stay strong....lean here....

xoxo

Emva's picture

You were right

May 20, 2012 - 10:42am — Emva

Thanks janemarie, you were absolutely right. I got someone else to drop his stuff back for me. Followed up with a civil text to let him know where to find it, as he wasn't there at the time, and now we're done.

eyeswideopen35's picture

We are there with you emva

May 18, 2012 - 7:39am — eyeswideopen35

We are there with you emva every step of the way...
Xo

sweetpeasarah's picture

Go girl!

May 18, 2012 - 7:34am — sweetpeasarah

Its tough, and you may have hiccups (i did) but its the only way. They really do not change...my thick skull has finally got it after my recent 'blip' !
Stay close here, post whenever you feel tempted to break NC. It helps!
Strength and hugs
xx

Monarch's picture

It may be difficult at first,

May 18, 2012 - 7:30am — Monarch

It may be difficult at first, but soon you will feel like you can breathe again. No more weight of a Narc pushing you into the ground. God bless! You can do it.

Sparrow's picture

Good luck! Implementing NC

May 18, 2012 - 6:50am — Sparrow

Good luck! Implementing NC is difficult at times. Glad to hear you are ready!

Stay strong!

Kitty84's picture

Good luck Emva xx

May 18, 2012 - 6:15am — Kitty84

Good luck Emva xx

Emva's picture

Thank you all

May 18, 2012 - 2:09pm — Emva

Thank you all so much for your support x

I kind of thought you'd all be in bed when I posted, I get confused with the time difference (I'm not in the US) so when the replies started coming I was very moved. I wish I'd found this forum months ago.

I just realised today I have nothing to say to him, and nothing I want to hear from him. He's changed jobs and moved away, so I may never run into him in person again, and the only thing that's keeping me from moving on is my stubbornness in refusing to let go of the relationship I wanted (but was never going to get).

TruthbeginsToday's picture

you go girl...

May 20, 2012 - 11:48am — TruthbeginsToday

Hold tight.... letting go of the illusion takes time. It's that DREAM illusion that he used to keep you going. Now you are free to REALLY achieve your dream of a real relationship.

here if you need support...anytime