Not every person who rejects us or is a douche is a NARC. I think we have to be careful when labeling people. I am here because my stbx truly does have NPD, as diagnosed our therapist. It is an untreatable illness... where as being a simple lying cheating douche-bag is simply an undesirable character trait. I feel sorry for my stbx... as there is no real hope for change because he doesn't have enough introspect to really look in his own mirror instead of borrowing his personality from others. I have read many many posts on here... and just because someone turns out to be not quite what they portrayed or you thought they were... does not mean they are really NPD. Some may have a lot of narcisistic traits... and I think most men have more traits of narcisism than women... but not necessarily a true personality DISORDER.