UPDATE....my husband took my kids

UPDATE....my husband took my kids
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...please see previous "husband took my kids" posted yesterday. After I posted the message, he did txt/say the kids r fine, I am spending one on one time w/them (I've done a great job at not trying to xpose them to the wrath of all of this and only lords knows what he is telling my kids whom he just snatched out our home...I can only imagine how distraught my daughter is she loves her daddy but she's a mommy's princess.). I asked what time was he bringn them home because its after bedtime, he never replied, don't want to say too much on the forum bcuz u just never know but i am cya'ng....I cried to sleep last night askn god to covet my kids the worry of not knowing where my kids are laying there head is so hurtful because I never thought he would ever get this low....he never returned kids home last night....I woke up this am and still nothing. Finally I txt to see if they were n school because he took them w/nothing he replied saying no they were not in school so no worries he has them...I asked well r u guys coming home this eve, he never replied, asked could is let them call me, he replied yes when they sale up....as of this second almost noon I still have not heard or seen them. I tried asking could he & I meet to talk this over to see whats going on w/him i asked are u hurt, scared etc....I had already advised him a few weeks ago that i was planning om relocating w/the kids. He was ok w/that however his response to my text was....he is scared, can't comprehend scared of what...ive been civil w/him thru this duration still do the stupid thought pondering that although I'm leaving i hope a light bulb clicks he could change...but he doesnt come home often, I know theres another woman ever so often he comes home reeking of her perfume staying out on a weekend, etc, he does nothing for me, has cut me off all financial support since Oct but does pay the house bills...he spends no time w/me r kids....so this is all what he wants and now that I've accepted what HE is...I'm on my path to recovery...but have 22 more days before school let's out, he's practically pushing me out the door anyway....he is in the major D & D phase, so i braced myself for this however I just never thought he'd stoop this low all to try to hurt me more because he doesnt want me......dont get it, but sitting home worried on pins/needles, ill keep everyone posted please keep me in your prayers....i dont understand what his intentions are so any advice or input helps.

goldie's picture

I have NOT received a PM from you telling me what is going on

As a member of this site your are REQUIRED to answer ALL the questions asked of you from a moderator.

I am a modertor and I want to know what is going on here. Have you called the police back yet and if not do you want me to do it?

This is not acceptable for you to NOT know where your children are. This man sounds distressed and you need the help of the Police.

PLEASE answer my questions.

Thank you,
Goldie

Im_always_fine's picture

It's called KIDNAPPING. It's

It's called KIDNAPPING. It's illegal...whether he is the parent or not. That is why we see PARENTS on America's Most Wanted who has illegally taken their children.

How do you KNOW that he isn't in Canada with those kids RIGHT NOW? And changing their identities.

If he keeps them from you for a specific length of time without your making efforts to recover them or contact the authorities YOU will be charged with abandonment...here in Canada it's 48 hours. And he gets custody by default.

DOOOOO something.

He's scared? Has he done something to them??

Then you switch from "he still has the kids" to his "his relationship with the other woman" I wouldn't be to think about ANYTHING but my kids. FFF the other woman and her perfume!

Are you kids still alive?

goldie's picture

WHAT is going on here?

I am not clear on why YOU are ignoring Hunter's question. She has asked you twice now on two different posts if you have gone to the Police and the Shelter.

Something could be wrong here. You told him you wanted to relocate and now he has the kids.
The shelter is more familar with your story than we are so could you PLEASE call them immediately and ask them what they recommend you do.

Have you called the Police? Are they familar with your situation? Has he done this before?

This is SERIOUS. You have come here for help and Hunter has asked you a question and YOU are require to answer a question from a moderator.

Now I am asking you questions and expect answers to all of my questions.

Are your children SAFE? What is going on here?

Do WE need to intervene here? Are you saying that you are incapable of addressing this situation?

Call the WOMAN'S CENTER now if you required their support in getting unstuck here. They can help you decide what to do.

God bless,
Goldie

survivaloftheheart's picture

sorry just so foggy right now

I feel like they are safe I've finally was able to reason w/him via text to let me at least speak to them.....finally after hours of wait they called....so I know they r ok, he came on phn to the end and I asked when was he bringing them home....he saylid mayb later.....all this just to hurt me....I'm gonna take a whim since so many or concerned abt the me contacting police, I've been scared to say but acting on faith here....I did contact them they came out took a statement and I have a police report #...now its a little wait & see...ill hv to contact them back if he doesnt bring thiem back....this is all so surreal to me and just a blur....my daughter said mommy I.miss u/love u bff....my heart ails...and I can hear the worry n my 8 yr old voice, do I think he will hurt them no, but to drag them thru this and use them as pawns to hurt me is what I don't get and not sure what he means by he's scared. This is what he wanted.......

Used's picture

survivaloftheheart

WHY HAVENT YOU BEEN IN CONTACT WITH THE POLICE....
HE HAS KIDNAPPED YOUR CHILDREN?...YOU ARE AFRAID OF WHAT THE CHILDREN MAY BE GOING THRU?
I DONT UNDERSTAND?

Hunter's picture

Did you call the police or go

Did you call the police or go to the shelter like you said??

Hunter

survivaloftheheart's picture

no shelters available

thing is they say call a shelter but im finding its harder than most think Hunter...don't want to say too much on this forum but I did CYA....so Hebrew never showed back last night so im still here in the home....

Used's picture

no shelters available?

WELL PLENTY OF POLICE ARE....
I think its best to give us the bigger picture, this is like a maze....
If you dont want to sy anything on here....Then PM someone.....so Hebrew never showed back last night so im still here in the home....THIS LAST SENTANCE DOESNT MAKE SENSE...

goldie's picture

Yes Used, I am with you

None of this makes sense to me, none of it. You are saying you called the police but did not want to tell us this. I am not clear on why the police are not concerned. You allso say he says he is scared. This sounds like desparate man. The police can put a tracer on his cell phone and find him and those children within minutes.

Why are YOU not asking the police to do this?

What is going on here. What are you NOT telling us.

I would have called the police immediately and demanded they put a tracer on his cell phone.
Why are you not doing this?

God bless,
Goldie

survivaloftheheart's picture

...thnx for responding

Sorry for all the confusion trying my best to xplain it they came to house at 2am they did take his numbers but never offered to contact them I told them what all has been happening...I've been xtremely scared of mentioning the police situation because sometimes I feel he has hacked my cell phn...there was a time n the past that he knew I downloaded an article for a healthy divorce on my cell phn....and a few days later he thru n my face I know u r at the point of "ignore your husband.". It's just a emotional roller coaster which I can't understand when this is what he wants. So they may b doing there part (police) but so far I have heard nothing not even he is calln to say they contacted him. He has a friend who is a constable here who I found out that he contacted them....I guess to see what his rights were....although we've gone thru episodes n past years where police should have been contacted I was still walkn n the abyss so its no trail of our problems xcept the mass journals I have kept from past/present of documenting what's going on. Right now I'm caught n a situation I think where he feels just like a mother can takw kids/run so can he (but he's only doing this for the reaction he's getting now). So not sure but I will b contacting them n a bit to inquire about what you suggested....again he has let me speak with them as of now, but still inside of there whereabouts so I know they are ok just not sure what his plans r or what the purpose of all this is about!

Stillstanding's picture

So call the cops and bug the

So call the cops and bug the hell out of them until they do something. You even said your daughter sounded different on the phone when you spoke to her. Stand up for your kids if not for yourself. I'm sorry if I sound out of line but he needs to know he can't get away whit this crap and you will not tolerate this behavior.

goldie's picture

THEN CALL THE SHELTER HOTLINE IN YOUR STATE

They can direct you. Google shelters in your county and call them. Call someone. PM a modator with what is going on here.

survivaloftheheart's picture

yes just updated info on police

I have still been living in the home my intent was to pack up me/kids and go to shelter yesterday...he came/took them so yes I am still n the home he hasn't dotted the door.....so I have CYA! (Mine)