Until yesterday, I would feel weird, bad, creepy, over-reactive, dramatic, wrong, heightened for avoiding the EXNH-Psychopath.
Yesterday I had to be in the same place as he was, at the same time. I hung back. I saw his car. I waited for him to exit from a very far distance. I saw him leave. I did not watch him any longer than I needed to - I just watched to confirm that he was, in fact, leaving. Then I entered and did what I needed to do.
No drama. No external drama. No internal drama.
I attribute this change to time and study. But also to reading the Thomas Sheridan book, "Puzzling People" which I recently got. And also, a couple of friends in real life are prodding me to get "over it", and get on with my life. Their feedback is that I have been angry and upset for so long and that it is hurting me. They said this in the most heartfelt and gentle and understanding way -- they are true friends -- they've stood by me for years, and I trust their judgement.