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My exnbf his mother,father and sister were all narcs. The sister hates me for some reason. I still to this day don't know why.Have any of you had trouble with your narcs family?
Janie I agree with you lol I was like well duh they are narcs. No you did not offend me at all but they will be in the kids life so I will have to have little contact
I want to apologize if my response came across as rude; it wasn't my intention at all. I'm sorry if I offended you in any way.
My wish, for all of us, is to be narc free and to be able to move past this hell to a much brighter future.
Be well and stay true!
You said they are all narcs and you are wondering why they hate you? I ask you, why do you care? Please start reading about this disorder so you completely understand it.. I recommend starting with Lisa's books and you can move on to others down the road. Read all the blogs provided on the left, as well as the posts in the favorites section.
Knowledge is power and is necessary, as is NC.
Stay true to you!
My N did not tell his family for over 2 months that his wife and daughter moved out! I however told one of his sisters. They were not surprised. They saw first hand his treatment of me. I kept it brief.no one told the parents until Feb 12. On my birthday his sister came to my apartment and told me she told her parents because she was afraid they would find out from someone else. That week his parents went to the house and confronted him. They were not too happy. Of course when they left he turned to our 14 year old and blamed it all on me. The next week my daughter and I went to my inlaws I felt I have nothing to hide and also wanted to thank them for the birthday card they had sent. My mother in law whos english was never that good just looked at me and asked if I was ok I told her yes then she asked if I was going back and I smiled and told her no she said "I am not going to say anything" Then pretty much same thing with father in law he added that his son needs help. It was a brief visit and I have not gone back becuase I know chen the chips get down they will side with their son. my other sis in law is very opinionated and judgemental I have been keeping a low profile. I am not hiding but not hanging out with any of them either.
His entire family are throw backs. They should drowned or neutered. His phony grandparents with all their putting own airs (his mean drunk grand dad...goes straight for the smallest and most vulnerable always)) His uppity mother and endless cruel headgames. His father who BRUTALIZED him as a child and a young man beating him with punches hard enough to clock a grown man. His sisters both self destructed with hard drug abuse and street prostitution (one is dead). His 3 or 4 kids each as lying, sneaking and conniving as the next..everyone has a different mother.
Right offs. I think that mutts breed mutts in this case. They should not be allowed to reproduce.
Never in my whole life have I met such a thoroughly vile clan
His mother is your stereotypical narc mom. VERY self-centered. He hated the way she behaved, so I am just in shock that he ends up acting worse than her.
My exN husbands, father and brother are both narcs... Not sure what the deal is with his mum, I know he completely hates her and has no contact with her...
He loathed his dad too for the exact reason that he is a narc yet he amides him as well...
My ex even said to me are you sure you want to marry into the family and take on my name, my whole family Is fucked up!
I sholud have listened to that big giant red flag being waived in front of me!
My ex-nbf's father was a narc. They were all loving to me but regardless I found them a bit odd. The ex-wife was best friends with the father's second wife, so wherever the father went the two women went, too. We're not talking mid-lifers here, folks, we're talking 70's and 80's. When he passed away the second wife wasn't all that grieved and told me she had an extremely hard life with him (cheating and the like) and after his passing she started travelling and really enjoying herself. The Narc's mother was always very surface - he blamed her for being so messed up - that she left him he day after he graduated high school to marry her second husband - and that it messed him up. I never had the guts to question whether what he told me was true, but the sister and this mom did deny a detail he blamed on her - they denied it in a manner that made me believe them and not him. The sister - not close with him at all. She kept telling him to not be so shitty - she was the one that pointed out how crappy he talked to my children - I was so blind in love I didn't even see that happening.
I have cut off communication from my exn family. They have blamed me for everything. He tells them I am crazy and I cant control my emotions. I feel angry because I know this is not true but then I consider the source...
First.. his mother allowed his father to beat her ass in front of him and his sister for over ten years. She never called the police on him or kicked him out. When her son went t jail for domestic violence.. she asked me why I even called the police. HIs sister was mad at me as well.
Second.. my exn and his sister still get into fist fights..They are 40 and 42, in front of their mom and the kids. So they have no respect for anybody or anything.
Third... my ex sis in law told me I wanted to stay around him because I find every excuse to be around him and I obviously like the way he treats me because I'm still here. If only it was that easy to leave.
So from all of these things... I have learned that the problem was there loooonnng before me and will be long after. His mother coddles him and never makes him accountable for his actions... his sister just fights him and treats him like shit. So they are all dysfunctional and selfish really. That is their problem .If I never spoke to any of them again, I would be ok.
Your NARC has probably lied about you.. twisted reality to make you seem like some kind of freak when its really him.
I think that if people don't take the time to learn the TRUTH then screw them. WHo are they anyway??? They cant handle the truth because some people are infinitely broken and can't handle it.
I'm sending all my best wishes and thoughts your way...
He has convinced them I am nuts, by showing them my pissed off texts, by making up imaginary phone conversations while I am on the other end with my mouth hanging open in shock wondering what the hell he was talking about! By borrowing his sisters phone calling me from it and when I called him back making it out like I was harassing and stalking him!! OMG , it never once occured to these highly educated ( lawyer brother in law ) people .. HOW did I know to call him on his sisters cell phone if he didn't call me first?? It doesn't really matter but it kinda hurts when people believe the lies the psycho heartlessly spreads.
Yes,he lied about me saying I was a really mean person and crazy. That is so hurtful he denied it but the mom was the boss of the house. The dad was a drunk who worked 24/7 so he won't have to be home. She controls everyone in the family
Sorry for the repeats posts. Phone froze up.
does it matter at this point? Deleting the family is part of the NC.
I think it matters because having questions answered and knowing what is real and normal puts the issues to rest, one by one. I am a person that needs to understand before moving on, too.
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