Hi all - I am enjoying some small pleasures this Mother's Day. Nothing at all fancy, but my kids are sweet and there for me. I don't need "stuff" - I just need to love and be loved.
My narc husband, however, is the opposite.
I will have had no real contact with him 3 months this week. However, he has filed for divorce (finally), mainly to get his "stuff" from the house.
Long story short: Kids and I left, afraid of him, came back after a month thinking we had to get an apartment, I got really mad one day and managed to scare him out of the house.
Now, 3 months later, he wants to come get the rest of him stuff. He got a lawyer and wrote a list. Some of it is his and some of it is ours. I do NOT want him coming to this house. His stuff (huge huge huge ammts of stuff) is all out in the garage, but I DO NOT TRUST HIM not to mess with us in some way if he comes here.
Soo - The kids and friends and I have been spending hours packing all his crap as fast as we can. I would much rather have it delivered than have him come here.
Things I am dealing with because of this:
* Tough emotions having to see his stuff over and over (lots and lots of memories of a 25 year marriage)
* Anger - I want to trash his junk, but I am trying to take the high road for my kids
* Fear - he will EXPLODE when he finds out people have been messing with/looking at/touching HIS precious THINGS.
Ugh. Any ideas, support? I think this is the best choice, but I am not sure. With the lawyer breathing down my neck, I don't have a choice but to deal with it.