NC NC NC -- repeat after me...

NC NC NC -- repeat after me...
Posted May 12, 2012 - 9:29pm
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I am an idiot. I'm going to Paris next week with my mother for her birthday and my xNP has a very good friend in Paris who is a jewelry designer. So I thought I'd be clever and jump on her blog to see if she mentioned any cool restaurants. Well wouldn't you know it, she designed this necklace that's a gun (he's a gunsmith) pointing at a ruby. She calls it coup de foudre, which is a french euphemism for love at first sight. Which it must have been, of course, as he married the OW 16 days after he met her. Oh and did I mention that he met her on a plane two hours after leaving me crying his fucking eyes out telling me that he was so in love with me and didn't know what he was going to do. Well apparently he was going to meet a lesbian on a plane two hours later and marry her in 16 fucking days. There is no doubt that the chick in Paris made the necklace for the new wife. Yuck, ugh, vomit. And the thing that makes me really sick is that I FINALLY GET IT -- 9 months out and I've read everything I can get my hands on, and I know what it was and what this poor sweet girl is in for and I STILL WANT TO CRY AND VOMIT AT THE SAME TIME.

Contact = Pain. Period.

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uncomfortablynumb's picture

Not gonna lie...

May 13, 2012 - 7:15pm — uncomfortablynumb

Sounds like something I would totally dig! The neclace, that is...

Deidre99's picture

a gun to display

May 13, 2012 - 12:45pm — Deidre99

a gun to display 'love?'

hahaha only a narc would be so...'creative'

eye roll.

What's interesting, is how there are some triggers where we least expect them, sometimes. He's not normal. To marry someone 16 days after meeting her, is just way weird. Narc or not. lol Just waaaaaaaaaayyyyy weird.

Be thankful you're done. It stings a bit, I know.

Hunter's picture

I think she made the necklace

May 13, 2012 - 10:15am — Hunter

I think she made the necklace for her..

Ruby represents Blood.. the guN is shooting the love at first sight Dead..

Meaning..IT'S FUCK YOU TO HIM...

He however doesn't see it that way. He's getting off on the attention..

So.. He's in your head, her head .. And the wife's head..

Hunter

BtrflyGrl's picture

Mirrorshaker

May 12, 2012 - 10:13pm — BtrflyGrl

I was thinking about this all day. How can one go from ending a long term "loving" relationship to a new person the next day or even sooner. How does one charm some random stranger like that?

There is a guy I met shortly after ExN left and while I'm trying to let him down easy I just can't imagine faking that he is everything in the world to me. How delusional is that?

It is sick and weird. In my case there was always overlap. Securing NS before cutting all ties. He will probably marry this new one (I'm the only one he hasn't married - Thank goodness). He mentioned that during D&D "at least I didn't marry you" like he was the only one who had a say in it.

Creepy Mother F'ers. Make me want to vomit as well. Stay strong.

Sparrow's picture

Please stay off her blog.

May 12, 2012 - 9:58pm — Sparrow

Please stay off her blog. And anyone else's site that a connected to him. I am sure you were curios about many things, but now that you have peeked, I'm sure you understand why it is not good to do so.

Stay strong and remain NC!

Emmy's picture

Oh rats. Sorry...

May 12, 2012 - 9:54pm — Emmy

I keep finding weird ways to bring him into my mind "accidentally" -- wanting some kind of word? Idk. I think it comes from wanting to understand. It makes me nuts that we have no closure or anything.

We have to avoid anything having to do with them for ourselves, I guess. Ugh.

I feel your pain, sweetie. Hang in there.