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Question- does the typical N behave the same with family members (brothers/sisters for example) as they do NS? Do they try the same bullshit on their siblings as they do a mate/target?
Several examples of which are:
1 Controlling his children's behaviour through emtional blackmail - however, he also used them to massage his ego consisently - their emotional behaviour therefore was very covert and has resulted in them being two-faced, scared of him on occasion, fearful of his reaction to small errors like spilling drinks, putting him on a pedastal etc. He would NEVER show them real empathy during bouts of sickness or distress, told them to man up and get on with things - nice daddy.
2. He kept his siblings far enough from him to not drop the mask - they believe he is not to blame for any of his break-ups and dysfunctinal relationships - to the point that he now has to continue with supply even when he wants out to keep up the front of normalcy. They feed him by accepting his truth and condoning his actions as "right" due to all the lies and manipulations he manages to stage - this starts early on once devaluation kicks in, starts to paint the picture to them months before discard so it can never be him. His sister on me and my actions "she always blames the men, she needs to take a long look in the mirror as she will end up on her own" - better than with him!!!!!
3. His parents are not used for supply at all - again, keeps them at arms length - birth mother is a bitch for leaving him at 2, step mother did a great job with him in his eyes YET his splitting was caused by her due to lack of real effection etc, she was an alcoholic, still is. She admits openly she can not tolerate small children and can only relate to them over the age of 8/9, as long as they behave a certain way!!! Says it all.
4. Only one friend who also has narc characteristics - only shows real self to him.
sincerely nice to his mum only. she was the only person towards whom i felt he had real feelings. not towards his dad. i remember him giving ST to his dad once. i don't know how he really felt about the siblings, i can only say he was always trying to be far better than them. they were his 'subtle rivals' i would say.
but all these were nothing compared to the BS he did to me..
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