Lately I have been questioning whether he is really a narc.. I know that this is common so I have questions. Are narcs generous with money? Because mine will spend money on me.. Take me out to dinner, put gas in my car, help with bills.. He will however help only just so much.. I am always left in debt.. Where he knows that I have to rely on him. Another question.. Are narcs lazy? Mine seems lazy.. He wants to live the life of sitting around, drinking.. Having fun, but he doesn't work or have any ambitions.. or dreams. Never talks about the future or makes plans. I really don't want to be in denial..but I feel like I need to be sure, lately I feel like there is something wrong with ME.