This is no coincidence. It is not only them having no boundaries,they enjoy walking around with their little secret while noone else knows. All the while instigating women to compete. They do what they want! And enjoy tricking everyone around them. My xN was married to a woman he worked with and cheated on her with someone 17 years younger that sat 15 feet away from the wife on the same floor. Then she kicked him out and while seperated is still seeing her while he goes after me. All the while knowing that the younger woman and I had to work together, where I was actually mentoring her. She called me up crying one day after going through his phone and reading his emails professing his love to me. She was hurt and kept saying she knew I wouldn't have done that to her if I had known. Now she was with him while he was actively married with two small children. You can all predict what happens from here. Major drama at work, with people on the verge of spilling their stores. All the while everyone thinking he was happily married and he is not bragging to anyone about his secret conquests, no the enjoyment is walking around thinking he has gotten over everyone and by that I mean the entire office. He gives up all custody to both children and suddenly gets another job!

You know what I find interesting about all this, is that I have always been of the mindset, that one shouldn't date people he/she works with...for a variety of reasons. But, mainly...because if things don't work out, then you have to see the person at work. Also, sometimes I've heard about sexual harassment suits coming about, because one party feels scorned, and seeks revenge. Just never thought (personally) that getting involved with coworkers to be a very wise idea.

So...you'd think that narcs would want to play it safe? Or is this also part of their risk taking/boundary-less personalities? They push the envelope, and have trouble with boundaries, and 'rules.' I'm wondering if that could be their desire to play the field at work, too?

Extremely dangerous also, for married narcs. I mean...people know the narc is married; isn't the narc afraid that word might spread that he/she is cheating?

Have always wondered these things, when I read stories on here about this kind of thing.

I don't think it's a coincidence that it happens at work. This scenario is playing out in front of me at my office, yet again. The office is my ex-N's sexual playground. He scopes out available women, watches them, tests the waters
--he gets to know them, as you say above. Then he can pull the strings as need be (deceit, lies, manipulations).

As for spending time around women and not acting on it, no doubt that's part of why he does it, especially when women are ready and willing (as the OW have been in my case). They are especially easy prey for a sexual predator.

Other factors are power, control, and playing women off each other in the same space (in our small work area, you can't avoid him or the women he takes up with). It's like a three-ring circus that he leads, baton in hand. He tries to run the show.

He has the added kick of mainly getting away with it, because he comes off as the golden employee and all around good guy. You'd never know he was a despicable, highly immoral sleazeball. Well, I know. But most don't. He uses and abuses women on company time and sometimes on the company's dollar. I heard him brag the other day that "it's a tough job, but someone has to do it" (he was talking about the recent trip he took with a woman in our office, hiding from everyone that they were there for sex).

The, because you keep working together, he tries to draw you in even after the break-up. Having to be physically in each other's spheres lends itself to more games and tricks.

Being involved with someone at work is one of the worst mistakes I ever made. It is so hard to go NC and live your life when you have to keep seeing/hearing/witnessing, and I still struggle two years after it's over.