my thoughts it is not that narcs treat everyone bad but they just use everyone, no one matters to them other than for their personal gains, even their children......

Let me just say..my narc was THE BEST. a beautiful man, absolutely beautiful, well-dressed, well spoken, not a doctor or lawyer, but a contractor. Just the right amount of hair on his chest, that model-semi-beard, olive skinned but not ethnic, (sorry - don't mean to offend), naturally curly black hair peppered with gray, hazel eyes, very well dressed even when casual, very neat and clean, not emotional at all, so when he smiled or showed his pleasure it lit up the room, not a huge penis but nothing to be ashamed of - his body was perfect - no moles, no odd things on his person from head to toe - a great mind, excellent vocabulary, intensive reader and kept himself abreast of news, sports, etc. There was nothing he didn't know something about. . .cool, collected, etc., etc.,

So do you get it? Everything a woman wants on the outside. Inside? I've gone there in many other posts. But let me say this - I have lived in New York, Florida, Texas, Hawaii, and California twice. No one has even come close. If you met him, you'd be swept off your feet with very little effort. Even my mother, when she met him and spent a weekend with us at his condo, told me he was quite something.

Then when I found him looking online for 18-55 year olds while I was sleeping naked in his bed under his roof, did i realize if i didn't get out he would one day try to seduce my then 11 year old daughter when she was old enough not to send him to jail.

These guys are masters at their craft. Don't try to figure them out - you are normal, they are psychopaths. Every woman is there for the taking - doesn't matter how old, how young, how innocent, how vulnerable - none of that matters to them. You are prey and they are carnivores. I don't know how to make it any more plain.

If they treat you nice they only want something from you and that is when you should worry the most!!!!

he will eventually treat her like crap too. Most likely he was never able to seduce her and so she was still enticing to him. He was triangulating you with her. I've been reading about this concept on other threads and I'm going to do more reading.

It was like a light-bulb went off in my head tonight that he used to triangulate me with the young college girl he was sleeping with. For a while he told me that she couldn't hold a candle to me, despite the fact she was half my age. What a joke, what a sad, sick joke on me.

He discussed that we could have a threesome. Imagine that, a narcissist who wanted to be adored by double supply. Luckily I had enough shred of self-respect to deny him that pleasure. I don't think college girl was so lucky. She didn't mind sharing, so he said. He has probably ruined the best years of her college life and screwed with her ability to enjoy normal relationships just as much as he did me.

This girl you're talking about really believes that she's special and that she understands him like no other woman. He's probably spun her a sob story about how his relationships never work out long term.

If they ever get together she will eventually be just as shocked and dismayed when he D&D's her, just like you. Look at this description:

"Ill-intentioned triangulation comes from a toxic person who is manipulating. It serves this triangulator best to have others involved in their toxic drama games. In these cases, the triangulation is little more than a tool used to drag the most people possible into the toxic swirl of their schemes as possible. Telling third (and fourth, and fifth) parties brings them more power or more gratification than it does to work toward the resolution of any issues."

More here: http://lightshouse.org/lights-blog/psychological-triangulation#ixzz1ucQv...