Remember Groundhog Day? Every few days I get a call or an email or a Facebook overture from someone who does not realize my husband of 27 years moved out in October and has been alternately giving me the silent treatment, hoovering, and saying he wants a divorce and then doing nothing. do any of you find that the Ns who D&D not only leave you but just leave everything behind? He was a super dad, he really was, and now he's totally indifferent. we had a huge circle of really nice friends, he's checked out of that. hasn't told his family, lies when he sees people we know and just acts like everything is fine. I have known one or two other people in my life who have done something like this -- both individuals with major depression from extreme childhood traumas. my N had childhood traumas as well. is that an extra dollop of yuck on top of the classic N stuff or have others experienced this wholesale retreat from not just you but everything about a pretty full, happy life?