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did your Narcs prefer watching tv and movies, playing internet games more than spending time with you or other friends?
I used to set the table for every meal, then I found I was a prisoner at the table of some weird thing he would manipulate me about. It was always the same thing, sticking the knife in and twisting it. Get rid of the dog, my family sucks because they don't give me money, get money from so-and-so, start such-and-such company and do all the work, send letters to every senator about it... If my mom or best friend, or anyone who was taking attention away from HIM was there - he would talk about car accidents, or poop, or running over animals at the table during dinner. I finally started hiding anywhere I wouldn't have to be face to face with him at the table. It was a great day when I stopped responding to this constant Mind F*cking.
Glued to the tube.
They are children who cant grow up to any age beyond about 15.....
eBay and YouTube constantly - I'd talk to him and he wouldn't hear a word, especially when he was looking at coins.
Mine XN was obsesed with RockBand. Over and over and over. In fact hosts parties all the time in his home just so he can show off and sing.
We're talking a grown man of 47 going on 12.
I had a LDR with my nutjob and one trip when he flew halfway across the world to be with me for five friggin days holed up in a hotel room all he did was play Angry Birds, watch the full first season of Boardwalk Empire on his tablet and almost every other waking minute watch TV. Oh and ignore me.
At the time I had no idead he was a PD but I found the experience to be completely bizzare. Not to mention I wasn't allowed to interrupt him.
Yes, he preferred porn and cybersex to the real thing. TV was on for every meal, and I was often ignored for TV.
He is 57 years old.
Mine was fine with hanging out with me quite a bit...until he bought his first house, and the roommates moved in...then it was all about THEM and between his work schedule, entertainment from the roomies, and homebuyers stress...I was in the way and needed to be punished for expecting to still matter.
but yeah, the times he did need to escape from me, it was usually video games, FB and online poker.
we are to old for internet games but he watched so much TV and read a ton of books, all to escape i guess.
He would seem happiest when he played video games! and he also would watch TV ALL the time, not wanting to go out at all...that was one thing he used as an excuse...that he just sits around and is depressed and unhappy so he wants to move out. He also was on his phone 24/7 surfing craigslist for cars and on car forums and on FB...obsessively.
OMG - Are we sure this isn't the same guy? Craigslist for cars, Car forums, FB (farmville)....UGH
Guitar Hero all the friggin time. Gross.
Yours did the car stuff too??? My N was on his phone constantly! What's weird is the final countdown to him leaving happened the weekend before he left, when he was getting texts left and right from his co-worker (a woman) about their upcoming training. She was asking him about it and I said something like, it was rude that he was answering her when we were out to eat. He then left to his trainig (overnight for 3 weeks) and had texted me a goodnight text...I did not reply...The next day he was saying how he wanted out...
i have looked at the forum, he is still on their talking about a different car every week that he wants to do a project on, so NOTHING has changed...
Mine waited until he was out of town too. Cowards!
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