OMG you all won't believe what I learned last night!!!! I know I know why would I be surprised, but it is textbook NPD at it's worst!!! This is absolutely UNREAL and almost UNBELIVEABLE. My EXN's old neighbor growing up, and one of the people he was with the night I met him, was in the town I now live in and out last night. She was one of the people who was out with us the night we broke up, which was this past August. I haven't seen him or her since! She approached me last night to ask if I was still seeing him and I told her I didn't want talk about him or anything dealing with him because I have moved on. She then said, "So you aren't with him at all now?" I said "No" and she said a few more things and I told her we should really go outside and talk so we did. That's when I found out that any doubts about him being a NARC have totally went away...not that I had many doubts anymore...but listen to this one!!!! When he broke up with me...well I guess that's what it was that morning...lol...I figured, but it was confirmed he was with his ex old gf, let's call her SUE... from high school (that he broke up with back in 1984 when he moved away the beginning of eleventh grade) that same night and she stayed over with him at the friends house that he was staying at for the weekend while he was in town. He slept in the bed he had just been in with me hours before and the sickest part is that she was pulled to the side by his older brother, who was also visiting and staying at the same friend house that weekend, he told her that I had just left a few hours ago and she should know he is in a relationship with me and my exN budded in and said don't believe everything my brother says! His brother is also a Doctor! He is 49 years old and heads up the OB/GYN Dept. out at a big hospital in NY!!!! All this behavior from these people, but at least he tried doing the right thing to NO avail!!!! Well that's not even the best part! Back in October, My ExN's longterm gf took him back after me and after me telling her about three other women he had been seeing while he was with her and then me....she is his cash cow!!! I was being groomed to be, up I didn't conform! Well it gets even better.... I learned last night from this old friend that Sue just sold her house (5 blocks from me I learned today) and told people that she is reuniting with her highschool boyfriend, that lives 2 1/2 hrs. from here in Sioux Falls and he is a Chiropractor out there...but she is buying a home in Montana, and he is moving out there to be with her soon when he moves out his gf aka cash cow, sells his house and Chiropractic business he owns in SF. He had told her he would be rid of his gf by this past New Years Eve, but he didn't hold that up and now has to be telling Sue something new...she is telling everyone that they are going to finally get there happily ever after (she has been divorced twice) But this gets even better!!!! Last night I learned of about EIGHT MORE women he has been seeing over the past couple years!!!!! Sue went to school with a few of these women too...she knows this and still sold her home and is moving or has moved to Montana from MN! But the house is sold, I checked online this morning! She told the old friend that it will be different with her, that he won't do any of that to her...the thing is I learned that he had been seeing her the whole last six or eight months of our relationship, and I don't think she knows it was that much time...I think he told her that we were over long before we were and that I was just at his old friends house the night before to hangout or something? I am not sure all I know is that some of the OW he was seeing are women that have money but are not attractive, I believe he used the one for those five years because she was giving him "investment" money...he was lying and lying to her...I know her...she was totally used and thrown away...well we all were, but I bet he took tons of her money! There was so much more information learned last night and with a phone call from his old friend today...but the main thing is that they caught on to him...her whole family...the mask came off for them too! They think he is a con man and he is possibly involved in drugs, because of the life he lives....and other reasons...I'm not sure, but I wouldn't doubt anything anymore with him! We both agree he is not going to move to MONTANA AND SUE IS GOING TO BE SITTING OUT THERE ALONE! But she was more than warned...she harassed me for two years because she was jealous of me, but she can have him and everything that comes with him now! I learned and I know the REAL him! We also believe that because he knows all of us from his old home town area are on to him, that he will not return here ever again! Fine by US!