I've mentioned this else where...

He would tell WHOLE STORIES that I'd told him about my childhood or a night out or an encounter with bad service BACK TO ME but like it happened to HIM...with him in MY part! I would just stare at him and say," That happened to me...that's MY story." And he'd say all glib," Oh did it? I just forgot."

Sometimes I wondered if he didn't just want completely absorb me until I was gone and there was only him.

agreed. mine would parrot back things that I had said or that he heard others say. same ol same ol. blah blah blah.

The words they use are also a give away when they are seeing OW.

Suddenly their vocabulary completely changes.

My exNH still uses my expressions to make his arguments. I'm not sure he realises that I'm onto him even though I start laughing now when he does it. I think he is just so programmed to 'taking' from other people that he will just use whatever phrase he can to score points. In fact, he quotes so much from other people, it simply reinforces the fact that's he's got nothing inside/personal from his own heart to share. He just mimics.
Tell you what though, it's frustrating as hell to hear this asshole basically feed back to me what I gave him over the years. Bloody martyr/victim complex - those weren't MY complaints, oh no! Turns out they were HIS. It's nauseating.

No my XN would NEVER use MY words or phrases!!!

I can't forget what a high saluting surgeon he is...and how sick and tired he is of being damage control for all the idiots at the hospital!! Ya ok Narcboy

When anyone would ask him why he broke up with me....he would respond "you don't really know her she needs anger management and on top of it she is as dumb as a box of rocks" He actually looked so stupid making such a ridiculous statement. People would think if that's true why would he remotely be with her for 9 years

I also believe he had either a bipolar or Narc mother. He said when he was a young child his mother would sit he and his brother down and teach them the art of winning an argument. He said she would create scenarios and teach them how to use their words effectively to bring people to their knees if needed. He took great pride in knowing how to do this.

She ended up committing suicide by the time my Narc was in his early 20's.

I guess that's a huge reason as to why he turned out to be a PSYCHO

But not my problem!!!

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