Mine is the passive kind, so he won't make any effort whatsoever to contact me...but...i still creep his fb...to look for signs of D&D of his new supply which will make me feel better because then I will know it's his pattern and not because I was all that difficult to be with...does that count as contact? I think he probably creeps mine, but i adjusted privacy settings so he can barely see any activity...if I unfriend/block him he will know I put thought/energy into him and he will like it, so I just let him think I'm not doing much activity, but still look for clues about him...i have not had any interaction with him since March 13, the final phonecall after his last hoover which I got sucked into but used it take care of some of my own unfinished business with him...

So...does that count as NC? If it doesn't, then I haven't had any NC because I just creeped him 10 minutes ago...

Bunker Mentality All THE WAY! Even looking at his profile pic or having access to ANYTHING that has to do with him like being friends with his buddies or family members adds a dimension of weakness. ERASE it ALL! Knowing anything about him creates temptation to break NC. I found that out after I broke NC after three months because I looked at his FB page.