Just a rant today. I freaking hate this phrase. It's total bullshit! I hear it all the time. No one can MAKE you feel small, insignificant, worthless, ashamed... blah blah blah. OF COURSE THEY CAN! A NARC is especially good at this. Their behaviors, the idealization, the D&D, the verbal assaults, the criticism...it's all by design SPECIFICALLY to ensure the proper feelings of worthlessness are felt by their victims. Why do people always blame the person who HAS feelings for actually FEELING exactly what the NARC wanted us to. They carefully hone their craft for just such effects, then not only do we feel ashamed, devalued, unloved... but now we get to feel stupid too because "hey, they didn't MAKE us feel like that". WTH?