hoover maneuver

hoover maneuver
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Im not sure if anyone remembers a while back that I posted after I moved out of the narcs house he suddenly found my baby album that I searched hi and low for and wanted my new address so he could mail it to me. Well I gave him my work address as I figured that would be safest.
2 months later of course, no album. My mother decided to send him a note and with a money order to cover the shipping...asking him to please mail it to her house.

Well 3 days later the album came in the mail with a note attached written to my Mom. At the end of the letter he said "

I'm so sorry things didn't work out with me and your daughter. She is a fantastic person and I miss her very much. I am still sick over all of this."

Ugh......I tore up the note and am trying to go about my day but I cant say that my emotions and anger are not stirred...
He of course knew my Mom would show me. Just one more way for him to test the waters to see if I will make contact.....and I will not!

spinning's picture

Good girl, Pamela!

This guy's slick. Poor, little, pitiful him...I guess he doesn't think you mom remembers that you uprooted your entire life only to have the rug pulled out by HIM...What a f'n lame attempt to re-write history.

I hope he's sick... :) He should be because he lost the best thing that ever happened in his life....YOU!

Good for you for staying No Contact. Shake it off and remember it for what it is... a pure fabrication on his part to show what a "stellar" guy he is...GAG!

Love,
(not) spinning. NO WAY. NEVER AGAIN

Deidre99's picture

He should have left off 'over

He should have left off 'over all of this.'

I am so glad you're staying NC. Even little things like this (well it's not so little to us here)...can stir up emotions. I am glad you got the album back.

He was hoping you'd call and plead for it. So, good for you that you had your mom intervene. I am hoping he goes away now.

Monarch's picture

"..He should have left off

"..He should have left off 'over all of this.'" Haahahahahahaha! Awesome, Deidre. Hoovers are crazy-making maneuvers to be sure.

Hunter's picture

Piece of Work.. He did that

Piece of Work.. He did that to make you look bad and him the hero " he is perfect after all..

My narc never spoke poorly about his X's .. He made an excuse for everyone that didn't work out..

Such nice guys don't you think??

Hunter