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Here's a hoover attempt that backfired, I'd say. ;)
and my first gut reaction (post N) was that her defense should be.....
You ripped out my heart...I ripped out your teeth....
I agree only a true nutter would go to an ex and put themselves in a position like that and think they were above any kind of retribution....
Like dumping our mechanic boyfriend for another guy then showing up at his shop to fix our brakes 3 days later, then wonder what we did wrong as we went over a cliff...
there's stupid...then there are narcs....
This woman should be ashamed of herself. Not only is she an embarrassment to her profession, but for womankind.
I see nothing validating, liberating, or deserving of praise.
She is disordered herself, and drunk with authority I might add. If not anything else, a very poor example to anyone that wants to heal properly.
Revenge..........we speak of it often here on the forum and emphasize NOT to seek it for many reasons, this being over the top, yet still a reason not to.
She is a moron and not one that I would look up to, that's for sure.
my point wasn't to advocate it. or remotely suggest it.
it was to show, how narcissism can poison a person's life, and make them do things, perhaps they might never consider.
not justifying it. not looking up to her.
that is, if he is narcissist. it just makes me read these stories a little differently now. like the burning bed. a woman who was abused for years, set her house on fire, and killed her husband in it. not wise. not moral. not in the least.
but, it shows that abusers sometimes mess with the wrong people. and it shows the mind of a battered woman.
did this dentist abuse her own authority and power? absolutely. but again, who knows the particulars, but i no longer judge people 'who go off the deep end,' as nuts, and stalkers, and couldn't get over ''that one guy.''
no. i doubt that happened here. normal sane people don't do this, over a simple break up. the fact that the guy still sought her, showed perhaps that she felt helpless. i say perhaps, for we don't know.
it's a hunch, but if she was dealing with a malignant narc...she might have just lost it. and i don't judge her as i might have once judged her, now seeing the damage narcissists/psychopaths do to the minds of their prey.
if he was a narc... I understand. You cross lines that you never thought you would before. For weeks, after the narc I kept to myself I wanted to physically hurt him so bad. I knew he couldn't feel emotionally but he sure could feel physical pain. LOL I past that stage now, yea.
yes, that's it, really. they take you to points of no return. this was calculated, so she's getting jail time. not a knee jerk reaction, or self defense. so, in HIS defense, of course she is the wrong one.
it's so surreal. i would have read this normally, and thought...oh my what a crazy woman! she's nuts!
i don't justify hurting someone physically, unless it's in self defense. but, now, i just view things differently.
who knows, maybe he was not a narc. but, doubtful any sane person would be that enraged to pull someone's entire mouthful of teeth out, just because they broke up. lol sorry, i think this dude was a narcissist, and probably pushed her to the brink.
the sheer fact that guy would still 'use' her as his dentist...after the breakup. i mean, clearly she didn't take the break up well. and you still show up and ask her to to be your dentist? i think she should have said, you need to find a new dentist, but she decided to exact revenge.
not advisable. for sure. but, the story made me giggle a bit, as to...they do get karma at some point.
Well.. At the End of the day the poor woman still loses..
She will go to jail.. He will get a boat load of money and a new set of teeth..
in all seriousness, NOT the way to handle things. But, I read it, and in my pre-understanding-narcissism days, i might think SHE was the one who was nuts. But, i guarantee this was the LEAST he deserved. lol
as an aside...his teeth will most likely look like chicklets (the gum), if they're ALL fake. lol
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