Okay, I feel like Im back peddling when it comes to my progress a bit. Its bothering me but I just need to get this of my chest.
When I broke up with my ex it was because he came over to my house with this letter that he read to me, in it he admitted to making out with his female roommate. (She had moved out by then). He claimed he was drunk and did not remember, and that she told him this 2 weeks before he admitted it to me. He later took it back after our breakup and said that she was crazy and had made it up. TOTAL BULLSHIT, clearly.
My confusion is..why admit to the make out? My guess is that since he knew I didnt trust him and had found sketchy things, that he decided to admit to something 'minor', say he was coming clean about everything, felt awful, and assumed that I would believe him. This way he could throw me off the scent of anything else that may have happened and throw in my face "I already admitted everything to you!" in the future if I ever questioned his loyalty. Does that sound about right?
Thats the only explanation I can come up with. Other than that he was too chicken to admit it to me for 8 months and then finally did. Although this theory implies that there was some aspect of guilt, which I dont actually think there was.
Also, I found out he had still been texting this "friend" days before he admitted this to me. He said he had been texting her for "advice". WTF.
Has anyone else had a narc admit to cheating? And were they just admitting to a fraction of what they'd done to try and gain some trust?
I know I shouldnt be going here, I know it doesnt matter, hes fucked up and we're done. I had made peace with this but for some reason its plaguing me again.