They don't feel love. They are obsessed with themselves. Not the same thing as love. They vacillate between self adoration and self loathing. They feel rage and fear. They are either better than everyone else or feeling like they have it worse than everyone else because they are always losing and wanting something more. Supply, respect, ect...Someone always has more or better than they do and they want it. They live in a state of jealousy, fear, rage, envy, greed, self pity, grandiosity , sarcasm, disgust, fake phony false persona's, con, and manipulation of others. They USE people, they don't love them or themselves. They see what you have that they want and they take it. All the rest of it is for show, pretend. They are easily bored with what they have and are ALWAYS looking over their shoulder to see if the grass is greener somewhere else.

A relationship with a N or P is the furthest thing from love which you are ever going to find.

So many come on here and look for clue's and answers which may show or prove that they do somehow love, if even themselves.

Sorry hon, they don't. They don't love you or anyone else. They are not designed that way. They are wired to use, take, devalue, and discard. They are selfish, self serving, and not the slightest bit interested in how their bad behaviors affect anyone else.

God bless,
Goldie

Their world consists entirely of shame and fear.

They envy those that can love, but they can not.

They constantly fear abandonment and because they do they ultimately cause it to happen, over and over again.

Ns always have other supply/OW we are unaware of - even if it's just an email/work 'flirtation'/their porn habits/dating sites. Ns are unable to remain faithful - ever. The xN I had the relationship always told me he never saw his exGf, hated her, she was awful/unstable - I found out only after I ended the 9 year relationship that he'd continued to invite her round often for 5 of those years to torture her with me/his family and had been unfaithful with her on more than one occasion, telling her we were finished though the HPV I contracted alone would have confirmed his infidelity - he even blamed this on me. Ns do not love themselves - quite the opposite - Ns vacillate between only 2 emotions anger/fear both not really felt as we would - they constantly try to fill their empty shells by living vicariously through others - they are machines out to seek/destroy supply to get the attention they require - nothing more.

They can't love. It's something missing in them, like their brains are not wired correctly.

It's not you.

Lily