Ns suffer a core trauma so early their brains are wired up differently from ours. They can never be healed. Ns cannot love, care for or demonstrate conern - they mimic emotions to abuse people. Ns select victims, exploit their vulnerability, and then abuse, torture, suck the life out of this person to fill their empty shells which can never be filled. Ns 'steal' love, time, energy, care, attention, money until we are completely depleted - sometimes homeless, destitute. Ns are pathological and compulsive liars from the minute they wake their agenda is to manipulate and control to gain attention - they leave us spiritually, emotionally, physically drained and almost insane. They are pompous, arrogant, grandiose, selfish, self-seeking, do not care what happens to anyone and feel entitled to anything and anyone they like regardless of the consequences. Ns are promiscuous, unfaithful, pleasure seeking, porn addicted, sexual deviants. Ns are always emotionally abusive often physically abusive. Ns exploit any source, they are predators, parasites and they never show remorse because to them we are nothing, we are inferior and deserve all we get. When one source dries up they move on immediately to the next, or have it already secured and waiting, and only look back when ready to exploit again. Ns are psychopaths, sub-human, automatons, empty machines on seek and destroy supply mode until the day this single cell monster dies. There is nothing to love here, nothing to feel pity for, nothing to feel sorry for. One cannot love, care for or feel sorry for evil.

I felt sorry for him too. He had an alcoholic father and controlling mother. But the other ladies are right. That doesn't give him the right to abuse. I was abused also so were many of us in our family but I learned that I did not want to treat anyone the way I was treated growing up. He had that choice too. The awful childhood does not excuse abuse. I feel for the inner pain he must suffer but that doesn't mean treating others like crap. It's a choice. If he chooses to be sadistic he has to be held accountable.

Especially after having met his parents and imagining the confused little kids he and his brother must have been growing up, I feel sad for his inner child...and the fact that he is unable to see beyond the tunnel vision of his upbringing to be able to observe the world outside and be aware of there being a difference. And I acknowledge that for both him and and his brother, it's such a waste, and think its really a shame. But after getting the brunt of his issues and feeling my own pain as well as the pain he is unable to feel, it's hard to feel to sorry for him now..he couldn't control his childhood, but now as an adult he brings everything on himself...probably the lack of responsibility is reinforced still by his mommy...it makes me very mad at his parents for messing up a perfectly good human being who could have had a soul and been successful at whatever he wanted to do...

..........lie and cheat. Heck, most of us here had crappy childhoods and every one of us is a victim of these "things". Boo-hoo-hoo....mommy left me with grandma and that's why I cheated! Boo-hoo-hoo.........

YOU feel bad because YOU have empathy. HE mimics human emotion of sadness to provoke sympathy from YOU because HE is a game player and manipulator and sure as shit wasn't crying about mommy leaving him with grandma when his D*&k was in another woman while he was in a relationship with YOU.

Worry about YOU feeling better because I can assure you, he doesn't "feel" bad about anything. In fact, he doesn't feel at all.

love~ Layla