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Exceptionally sad and overwhelmed....
bgirl
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Exceptionally sad and overwhelmed....
Posted April 29, 2012 - 6:35am
Hi there...
I've recently had a change in circumstances...can't determine whether it is a positive or a negative occurrence as of yet.....but am simply floored by the overwhelmingly emotions I am currently experiencing.
Is the N experience THAT debilitating that scenarios that evoke a series of deep emotions that I would have once been able to process now seem insurmountable and are seeing me ill at ease and very anxious??
Any tips from anyone who may have experienced similar?? I'm actually not sleeping again and finding my physical health beginning to decline....
Far out!!!!!!
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You are describing PTSD
April 29, 2012 - 10:10am — goldieHave you googled PTSD at all and are you familar with it? Very common symptoms for someone with childhood trauma and or the fallout from a relationship with a PD.
God bless,
Goldie
Thank you Lily and TW...and
April 29, 2012 - 10:37am — bgirlThank you Lily and TW...and Goldie....I have been diagnosed with it from the get go....it comes back with a vengeance at times you least expect or welcome it....
Thank you for the tips xx
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Remeber Lily, you are the BEST!
April 29, 2012 - 1:40pm — Trainwreck56His hollow evil persona will come back on him!
Forward and Onward with NCNNCNCNCNCNC~!
Hugs
tw
sleep
April 29, 2012 - 9:54am — lilygirlWe need it & lots of it. Try no caffeine after noon, a nice sleepy time tea before bed. I use the Chinese formula, An Mian Pian, all herbal, wake up feeling great. L- tryptphan taken at bedtime seems to help or if you wake up & can't go back to sleep.
Drink lots of water during the day.
Best sleepy time wishes,
Lily
Yea, i think it takes time wrap you head and emotions
April 29, 2012 - 8:54am — Trainwreck56around a relationship that never existed, it was one he created to use, abuse, manipulate, and brain wash!
I don't think of the GOOD times any more, all I had was horrible abuse, gas lighting, it is a BIG MIND FUCK, to
deal with.
In the beginning some days are better than others, most of the initial NC, was excruciating!
Now after 3 months, I feel indifference, but the pain comes
and goes!
YOU DID THE RIGHT THING! ITS NOT YOU ITS THEM!
I choose to no longer be a pawn in MR. PSYCHO'S SICK GAME ANYMORE!
NCNCNC
Feel better soon, the pain is worth the gain!
HUGS
TW
hey bgirl
April 29, 2012 - 7:38am — eyeswideopen35yep, can totally relate... i feel everything is amplified cause we are going through so much and its all an emotional rollercoaster.
It comes in waves, and just when you think you are over one bump, you have a few good days then BAM!
I still have trouble sleeping and my whole body clock is out of wake from being in a state of adreniline then a state of exhaustion!
its exhausting recovering from this, and lack of sleep just plays havoc with your emotions too....
can i suggest using essential oils for relaxation and sleep, i have just started using them and i am finding them very therapeudic! they also help alot with emotions etc,
chin up, stay strong, one more hurdle down... a good day is just around the corner
xo
Eyeswideopen...would you mind
April 29, 2012 - 7:44am — bgirlEyeswideopen...would you mind if I asked which ones are helping you?
Thank you so much xx
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bgirl
April 29, 2012 - 7:51am — eyeswideopen35sure hun, i use the in essence ones as they are pure oils.. ( im sure sure which country you are from but hopefully they are available worldwide
relaxation pulse point roll on is the main one i am using atm..
Relaxation and Balance
A calming peaceful blend for rest and relaxation. A clarifying and balancing blend to promote serenity and inner peace. Ideal for preparing the body for a restful night's sleep.
Featuring pure essential oils of Geranium, Clary Sage, Lavender, Bergamot, Marjoram and Cedarwood in a base of natural cold pressed oils.
check out the website
http://www.inessence.com.au/
i out it on the soles of my feet, wrist and temples..
it works on hormones and emotions, balances them out and will basically bring up whatever emotion is being repressed!
very helpful for sleeping too, also rescue remedy (sleep) work a treat too..
xo
Thank u soooo much for taking
April 29, 2012 - 7:55am — bgirlThank u soooo much for taking the time to reply and share....greatly appreciated..xx
The website is Aussie....well there u go...in my own backyard!
Crying also helps...which I've just done for the last hour...
Thank u again....xxx
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your welcome bgirl
April 29, 2012 - 8:00am — eyeswideopen35im from aust too! you should be able to get them from most pharmacies.. they truely work wonders!
yep cry too you have no tears left...let it all out!
harmony is another good one, but i think the relation pulse point is a great one to start with.. i use it like crazy and have noticed a big difference...
xo
bgirl
April 29, 2012 - 7:28am — flowersbe strong and have faith.. i have been through the same. when i thought i was gradually recovering, i hit another bump and got worse than i was immediately after the break up with N. i started having sleep troubles and health decline as well.lasted for some weeks. this is the time when i felt most vulnerable to break NC. i did break NC, trying to call him and texting him, but he would ignore everything from me. i really felt i was going crazy.
but be strong, dont break NC, this is going to make you feel even more miserable. do keep reading the blogs and post here, this forum is a great place and remember we are all here to help one another through this rough phase. remind yourself you deserve much more than you are going through right now and brighter days are just ahead.
xoxo
bgirl
April 29, 2012 - 7:18am — ruby01Could it be that something unrelated to the experience you had with a PD is weighing you down?
I found at one point that my mind was so focused on this particular situation, that I was leaving other areas of my life unattended and stress started building.
Thank you flowers xxx and
April 29, 2012 - 7:32am — bgirlThank you flowers xxx and Ruby that's an interesting thought....but I've let so many other areas of my life slide it's hard to pinpoint one lol.....but seriously I think I'm just very overwhelmed at the moment....
I think some of it is that I'm living my life how I have to, not how I want to....:-/
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The good news is other areas
April 29, 2012 - 8:08am — ruby01that have been neglected can be tackled one at a time.
Bottom line this messed up situation we all got ourselves into is OVER. It can't be fixed.
Unkept houses, financial difficulties, neglect of those who really matter, these are things that can be brought back to life!
Make a list of all the things that might be stressing you out that you can fix. This list does NOT include the EXN
Pick one of the items on your list and tackle it. You will feel both relief and pride in accomplishing this task, as well as rebuilding your self esteem.
xoxo,
Ruby
Good idea Ruby, thank
April 29, 2012 - 8:13am — bgirlGood idea Ruby, thank you...:)
I think I'll make one for the things I can and cannot change too....this is such a life changing experience it's hard to fit back into or find any form of semblance In my current world....
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Bgirl
April 29, 2012 - 7:14am — Janie53Sorry you are feeling so poorly. My answer to you, unfortunately, is yes. I think as we move along in our recover, we will hit different bumps in the road which may evoke new and unsettling emotions.
I am now quite anxious, not nervous, more like being on edge. And sleep, I have to rely on sleeping pills which I fought for too long, but the sleep deprivation was Interferring too much with my day to day life, yet lone my recovery.
I'm trying to accept these more difficult moments instead of fighting them. I need to confront every emotion presented, I don't want to leave anything behind. I don't conisider it steps backwards, more like a rough patch and the sun will shine even brighter when we get to the other side.
Hang in there love,
You are doing great!
Stay true!
xxxooo
Janie
Thanks Janie...yep big mess
April 29, 2012 - 7:25am — bgirlThanks Janie...yep big mess today :(
Actually, B girl it probably
April 29, 2012 - 7:32am — Janie53Actually, B girl it probably is related, though not directly. You have to remember we have been through hell, for some of us it is private and for others, they have some support from family and friends.
Regardless, though, we are raw, tired and on guard; hyper alert mode which is draining. I have had to pull myself several times at work because I am incredibly impatient, irritable and easily agitated.
I think when we will like this, we need to be extra good to ourselves. Do something for you, that extra treat, whatever that may be for you.
My hand is extended to you Bgirl. Hold a little tigher right now if you need to. This will pass.
Stay true!
xoxox
Janie
Thank u Janie...I need that
April 29, 2012 - 7:46am — bgirlThank u Janie...I need that hand today xxxxxx :'-(
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Bgirl
April 29, 2012 - 8:00am — Janie53Hold tight then! I'm right here! Cry if you need to cry, don't fight it. Get it out!!!!
Stay true!
Xxxooo
Thanks Janie...yep big mess
April 29, 2012 - 7:23am — bgirlThanks Janie...yep big mess today :(
It is unrelated to the N but then all of my emotions are post N emotions magnified....I can't quite understand why I can't cope with new scenarios involving interaction with every day human beings....
I'm fine with shopping, driving, reading...menial tasks...but when it comes to human relations I'm at a total loss and it's like I'm in overdrive....I am trying to 'sit with it' but I'm actually making myself physically ill.
I'm so shocked by the intensity of the 'aftershocks' from earthquake N...I really am!!
Thank u and hope ur ok xxxx
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I am having the same issues
April 29, 2012 - 8:10am — Harper03I am having the same issues right now. It is extremely hard to be around other people. I can be around family, a few friends and that is about it.
I do not know how to handle this and I am going to talk to my therapist about it tomorrow. I almost get in a panic mode and teary eyed when I have to be around people...
They really worked us over. I am also having trouble sleeping. But, I am still thinking about the N... My therapist suggest getting up and making a relaxing tea, rather than laying down and thinking about things for awhile.
Thinking about you.... Many hugs!